Have any questions about how to use the community? Check out the Help Discussion.

Nail cutting

Trgdm
Trgdm Member Posts: 9
First Comment
Member

Does anyone have suggestions on how to bet my DW to cut her toe nails? She is not a fan of getting a pedicure.

Comments

  • Chris20cm
    Chris20cm Member Posts: 118
    100 Care Reactions 100 Comments 100 Likes 25 Insightfuls Reactions
    Member

    I have been doing it for DW about every three weeks or so for the past ten years. I also have been successful getting her to shower once or twice a week as long as I prepare everything for her and leave the bathroom door ajar so she can holler if something goes wrong, too hot, too cold, etc.

  • Maru
    Maru Member Posts: 237
    250 Care Reactions 100 Likes 100 Comments 25 Insightfuls Reactions
    Member

    If you are unable or unwilling to cut her nails, some podiatrist offer that service. It's not a pedicure. I suspect that a home health service can also do that.

  • trottingalong
    trottingalong Member Posts: 835
    Ninth Anniversary 500 Care Reactions 500 Likes 500 Comments
    Member

    I recently started cutting my husbands, something I thought I would never do.

  • RetiredTeacher
    RetiredTeacher Member Posts: 230
    250 Care Reactions 100 Comments Third Anniversary 100 Likes
    Member

    My husband hid his feet from me, got up before me and had always wears socks. I saw his feet in the shower and was horrified by his toenails! Long, thick, and yucky. I bought clippers for thick nails on Amazon, put a king size sheet down and attempted to cut his nails. I was able to cut them all down but some were 1/4"+ thick! I tried to cut them closer than the original clip but he hollered it was hurting. I am going to reach out to the doctor to see if there are any podiatry services available. I feel terrible I had no idea hos toenails looked so bad.

  • harshedbuzz
    harshedbuzz Member Posts: 5,974
    Eighth Anniversary 1,500 Insightfuls Reactions 1,500 Likes 5000 Comments
    Member

    I'd take her to a podiatrist.

    Many states have strict restrictions on who can cut nails. In my state, an LPN or RN can legally cut nails, but often their employers do not offer that as a service for liability reasons.

    HB

  • JDancer
    JDancer Member Posts: 535
    Fifth Anniversary 100 Care Reactions 100 Likes 100 Comments
    Member

    It's usually impossible to "get" a PWD to do something. YMMV.

    If you want something done, you might have to do it yourself

  • annie51
    annie51 Member Posts: 480
    250 Likes 250 Care Reactions 100 Insightfuls Reactions 100 Comments
    Member

    For my DH, I can sometimes talk him into soaking his feet in warm water with epsom salts (they have some with nice scents now too). He won’t cut his own nails anymore so after a bit of soaking, I try to cut his nails. Sometimes he lets me, sometimes he says it hurts and gets angry if I keep trying. I do what I can.

  • Biggles
    Biggles Member Posts: 590
    1,000 Care Reactions 500 Likes 500 Comments 100 Insightfuls Reactions
    Member

    Firstly I suggest you go to a chemist (I guess you call it a drug store) and ask for strong toe nail clippers for thick nails and smaller ones for thinner nails. I always cut our toe nails and fingernails together after showering and just after breakfast sitting at our outside table in the garden. It’s such a pleasant spot and I only cut them if my DH is ready. But I usually say something like “I’m cutting toe nails this morning, would you like yours done”. Outside is good I don’t have to worry too much about the clippings and it’s always relaxing. I often have music playing on my iPhone etc. it’s also nice opportunity to massage the feet, I used to love that when my DH massaged my feet now I can return the pleasure. Good luck.

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
Read more