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Agitated Spouse

garypbee
garypbee Member Posts: 3
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My wife has Alzheimer’s and on occasion feels that she has appointments (like hair or nails or something like that). Wants to call to cancel appointment. These are places from over 30 years ago. In another state.
I try to let make her think I’ve already cancelled the appointment and sometimes thus works. Other times she starts calling directory assistance to get the number for a place that doesn’t exist. She’ll argue with me about needing to cancel appointment. I try not to argue. She gets angry and frustrated. I don’t handle it all that well.
Any suggestions???

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  • H1235
    H1235 Member Posts: 1,148
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    What if you pretend to hang up just as you are entering the room. Would a more detailed fib be more convincing. Tell her you talked with “Sally” and it’s all taken care of. Lay it on thick, they had me on hold forever. If she starts calling directory assistance could you say “ Can I give it a try. Maybe I’ll have better luck.” Maybe even sympathize with her about how hard it is to find a phone number now days. Not arguing is so hard. It seems like they have a way of sucking you into the argument. Good luck.

  • sandwichone123
    sandwichone123 Member Posts: 1,047
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    Is there a friend you could ask to call and cancel the appt?

  • garypbee
    garypbee Member Posts: 3
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    https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/250497#Comment_250497

    thanks. That gives me a plan. Entering the room while “on the phone” changing her appointment.

  • garypbee
    garypbee Member Posts: 3
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    Thanks. That gives me another route to take.

  • M5M
    M5M Member Posts: 185
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    And you could have someone call you to cancel……"the beauty parlor needed to move your appointment, they will call when they are open again…."

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