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Timmyd · August 17

Today, I learned a new technique to get DW to change into clean clothes without a conflict. It feels good to be successful and to have learned something new and useful. The awful part of this is that whatever I learned that will work today,probably won't work tomorrow. It feels like the reward for success is decline and the opportunity to learn something else. I hate how I am always having to play from behind with this disease…..

SDianeL · August 17

good to hear successes! Thanks for sharing. Can you share the technique so others can try it?

Goodlife2025 · August 17

Yes, please do share what worked. Even if it worked only once; maybe I can try it with my DW.

Timmyd · August 17

For whatever reason, DW will not remove clothing when asked and will resist when I try to help her remove it. This applies mostly to pants and underwear. Shirts seem to be easier. However she is still rather compliant when I ask her to use a baby wipe to clean herself after I see she used the toilet. She still accepts the importance of cleaning herself after the toilet. She is voluntarily taking down her pants and underwear to use the baby wipe. I am able to intercept that process and get those clothes all the way off without much resistance. I then substitute the clean clothes that she puts back on. Victory !!!!

Chris20cm · August 17

Yes, it takes a lot of trial and error but we can find ways to make it work. When DW changes into her night clothes, and then makes her final bathroom visit, I snatch up the clothes and toss them in the washer. Simple.

Goodlife2025 · August 19

I've done the snatching up of clothes as soon as they hit the floor. Nice trick that she doesn't seem to notice. But sometimes it is the getting the clothes off to start the process. I'll share that by accident I learned that if I give my DW a "hair conditioning" treatment, I can have success. Sometimes I can get her into a robe first but most times we start with her fully dressed. I make it like we are having a home spa day. I can put the treatment (conditioner) in her dry hair then pin or clip it up, you can put it up in a shower cap too, I then make a big deal out of putting on a timer, and then when it goes off I announce we need to do the next step of washing it out. And that requires a shower to get it all rinsed out like the directions say. We are following directions, it is not me telling her she needs a shower but lets me get her into the shower when it is otherwise quite a challenge. Sometimes if she is anxious or suspicious of my motives I will do the treatment on myself as well - then we are having a spa day "together".

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