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The Pain of Putting Parents in Nursing home

Mav2126
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I feel so much pain and sorrow putting my parents into a nursing home. They both have dementia and seem to be spiraling further down since I put them in the nursing home just weeks ago. Both of them seem to not like their situation. It just hurts so much to have them suffer and it causes me great pain and grief.

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  • marihargan
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    I am so sorry for what you are going through, and I am feeling the same feelings as my mom fear deteriorates. I just don’t know what I’m going to do.
  • Mav2126
    Mav2126 Member Posts: 32
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    Thanks for your response. Its so good to know that I am not alone.

  • easy23
    easy23 Member Posts: 295
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    edited August 19

    I feel the same way. I just had to move my DH from memory care to a nursing home. As much as it was necessary I still feel guilty. I'm hoping it will pass once I see how much he needed the care that MC could no longer provide. Hang in there!

  • sandwichone123
    sandwichone123 Member Posts: 1,047
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    I think the pain of watching our loved ones with dementia is hard, but I remind myself that if my lo had another terminal illness like pancreatic cancer I would also have a very hard time watching them suffer, just in a different way. It's not the placement that make them, and by extension us, suffer, but the disease.

  • SDianeL
    SDianeL Member Posts: 2,054
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    so sorry about your parents. It is so hard to watch our loved ones suffer from this disease. It’s heartbreaking. You are doing the right thing for them. You are not doing it to them. You are making sure they are safe and well cared for. Many of us have had to do the same for our loved one. We understand how you feel. Hugs. 💜

  • Colacho10
    Colacho10 Member Posts: 27
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    It is never easy, but some things are necessary to do, and go through for the best. I am still able to care for my dad, and I can't imagine how I would feel in your situation. Hope you find a way to feel better, and they get used to the new situation.

  • Rob's Daughter
    Rob's Daughter Member Posts: 30
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    Its doubly hard since its both your parents, I'm in that boat, too. I am just so glad they are safe and taken care of. You are not alone.

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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