Hello out there

I'm generally wary of the various AI systems, but more to the point, I think you will get much better and more trustworthy answers and advice from this group.

Hello and welcome! My husband was just diagnosed this month so I’m still very new and learning daily.

This community is so supportive and welcoming its helped ease my feelings of being alone.

Welcome to this wonderful forum! I’m in a very similar situation as you are, where DH is jabbering a lot and isn’t interested in doing much. Sometimes I can get him to watch a little TV, but most of the day is spent walking with him (in the humid 90’s of Florida 🥵) or taking very long car rides to nowhere. It’s hard to find other ways to redirect him. Keep up the good work - we do it for love but we lose ourselves in the process sometimes.

Welcome to the place for info and support. I don't know what I would have done without this group. Ditto on the book "The 36 Hour Day" which was recommended by a nurse. Also search for caregiving videos online from Tam Cummings & Teepa Snow. One thing I learned here early on was "you can't reason with someone whose reasoner is broken" and "don't argue with the PWD, get into their reality" Learn to fib to them, redirect or distract them. Ice cream usually worked for my husband. Have a Plan B if something happens to you. And lastly, search for the post on here about "The Cavalry Isn't Coming" - a post by someone who felt abandoned by friends & family. Sadly it's all too common. We understand what you're going through and are here for you to ask questions or just to vent. 💜

Ditto I was depressed scared crying and felt so desperately alone even with some family close by. This group is caring and are able to share in your highs and lows with practical help and advice. I no longer burst into tears and have more understanding than any medical expert that I have come in contact with. I have navigated my way to work out how to cope and still find love and friendship with my darling DH of 54 years. Two articles on this forum helped me enormously I suggest you look them up ‘The Caregivers Brain’ and ‘The Cavalry’s NOT Coming’ I think brilliantly written by Bill a member since 2001. Good luck.

Hi, Persevere and welcome to the forum. I've been on this journey a long time and my DH is now in MC. I still go through the whole range of emotions though. Visiting him elicits both love and frustration. Three things to remember; don't argue, try to reason, or correct. Try to "live in their world." My DH asks about his mom and dad and why haven't they been to see him. My DH is 85 years old and his folks have been gone a long time but he doesn't remember. Instead of reminding him, I tell him they are on vacation or they coming tomorrow. This keeps him from grieving his parents all over again. We call these fiblets. If you haven't already, you will need to contact an elderlaw attorney. They can help you set up DPOA for finances and healthcare for both you and your DW. This is very important and should not be put off. They will also be well versed in Medicaid rules in your state should the need arise. Another thing is having a "PLan B." This involves looking at memory care facilities in your area should you need to place your DW at some point in the future. You also need to think about what would happen if something happened to you. You are in chare now and I know this is a lot to think about but everyone on this forum is here to help and support you. I wish you well on your journey and hope you post often and ask lots of questions. I know this is hard and I'm sorry you need to be here.