He keeps pushing me

Being pushed puts you at risk for breaking something or being hurt. Do you have a way to get help if you do? When your husband with dementia takes off his pants, the behavior can stem from confusion, disorientation, loss of inhibition, or physical discomfort. I would question if going out is necessary, or perhaps someone could stay with him while you go out? This behavior is probably not going to change. They make jumpsuits that he can't remove that close in the back. Buck & Buck has them. https://www.buckandbuck.com/

Eloise0304 - I feel that I need to provide some type of response as you have initiated a number of discussions since you joined this group that are concerning for your safety as well as your DH. I do not have the answers but I have concerns that you are caring for someone that you have stated you do not love, becomes violent, and you have either left or want to leave. My concerns also include your vulnerable partner. While he may or may not have had an aggressive nature in the past, the dementia may exacerbate this behavior now as he may no longer inhibit his response as the disease progresses. He will, at some point, no longer accurately interpret his environment and respond with agitation and aggression. You stated that you “trigger” him with your well-intended actions. You are frustrated and feel “trapped” in a life that is out of control. This feeling is likely universal to all who are caring for someone with dementia but you do have a choice. You can choose to seek outside help to guide your decisions that will be best for you as well as him. I felt that, despite the rapid disease progression during which my DH lost all ability to toilet himself, communicate his needs, walk, or feed himself; he still was able to pick up on the tone and empathy (or lack of) those caring for him. Not everyone can manage being a caregiver for a wide range of reasons. I too was resentful of my DH and needed to continually reframe my thinking to resentment of the disease. He has a life-limiting diagnosis that he didn’t ask for either. There have been helpful suggestions by others. Please take that first step to seek the help you need.