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He keeps pushing me

Eloise0304
Eloise0304 Member Posts: 110
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I know I trigger his aggression, but when he pulls off his pants when we try to go out , I try to put them on, then he pushes me and I fall, more than one time

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  • SDianeL
    SDianeL Member Posts: 2,323
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    Being pushed puts you at risk for breaking something or being hurt. Do you have a way to get help if you do? When your husband with dementia takes off his pants, the behavior can stem from confusion, disorientation, loss of inhibition, or physical discomfort. I would question if going out is necessary, or perhaps someone could stay with him while you go out? This behavior is probably not going to change. They make jumpsuits that he can't remove that close in the back. Buck & Buck has them. https://www.buckandbuck.com/

  • Gator1976
    Gator1976 Member Posts: 83
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    it would seem better to just not force the issue. If it’s a doctor visit. See if it can be virtual instead of face to face. You have moral boundaries, he doesn’t. To him what he’s doing is ok, no remorse. You may be beyond the ability to care for him. I would seek ALZ Assoc. recommendations.

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DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
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