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Grief

jfkoc
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Jim Carrey once said: Grief is not just an emotion—it’s an unraveling, a space where something once lived but is now gone. It carves through you, leaving a hollow ache where love once resided.

In the beginning, it feels unbearable, like a wound that will never close. But over time, the raw edges begin to mend. The pain softens, but the imprint remains—a quiet reminder of what once was.

The truth is, you never truly "move on." You move with it. The love you had does not disappear; it transforms. It lingers in the echoes of laughter, in the warmth of old memories, in the silent moments where you still reach for what is no longer there. And that’s okay.

Grief is not a burden to be hidden. It is not a weakness to be ashamed of. It is the deepest proof that love existed, that something beautiful once touched your life. So let yourself feel it.

Let yourself mourn. Let yourself remember.

There is no timeline, no “right” way to grieve. Some days will be heavy, and some will feel lighter. Some moments will bring unexpected waves of sadness, while others will fill you with gratitude for the love you were lucky enough to experience.Honor your grief, for it is sacred. It is a testament to the depth of your heart.

And in time, through the pain, you will find healing—not because you have forgotten, but because you have learned how to carry both love and loss together

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  • jehjeh
    jehjeh Member Posts: 150
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    Thank you for this post. My husband died 7 weeks ago. At first, it was like a great weight had been lifted from my shoulders and I could breathe again. Looking back, I realize I was pretty manic. Cleaning, organizing, getting things done. Then, a few days ago, the grief came flooding in. Nonstop tears for 2 days. No desire to move from the couch. Now, the tears come sporadically and I never see it coming. When my dad died, years ago, a friend gave me books on grief and that helped a lot. I'd like to read now but can't remember any titles. Any recommendations are welcome.

    Sorry for such long post. I'm feeling raw right now.

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