Another hit to my heart

blacksparky · August 31

I posted a couple of months ago regarding my DW not remembering our anniversary and how it really hurt me. Well guess what, today is her birthday and she had no idea that she had a birthday. I should be used to this but it still hurts. That’s all

Metta · August 31

Feeling the hurt right here with you. We went out to lunch for DH’s birthday and Father’s Day in June. Those were our last celebrations out together because we are housebound now. The lost celebrations hurt.

Hugs to you…

Chris20cm · August 31

Yes, that is painful but I try not to take it personally. Easier said than done, but there's a part of my wife's brain that's not functioning and she doesn't remember when or where we were married 60 years ago, when birthdays are, and she asks me 50 times a day "what month are we in?"

CindyBum · August 31

Ouchie. Hugs

Chance Rider · August 31

I’m so sorry your DW no longer recognizes the special milestone dates. It’s like a gut punch every time. Our 26th anniversary was 8/22… this is the 2nd anniversary he couldn’t remember. I know it’s the disease but it still hurts.

Hugs,

Eve

annie51 · September 1

It is heartbreaking. I do my best to just think of those days as regular days. If it’s my birthday I treat myself to my favorite cake or some extra wine. It’s harder for the big holidays…coming up soon. 😞

Hugs to you.

SDianeL · September 1

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BPS · September 1

My wife was in MC for 49th anniversary. I went and pick her up and brought her home for most of the day. I tried to make it special. I even had hope that if I did or said the right thing it might be a good day. It wasn't and I was disappointed. We just had our 50th a week ago and she has declined so It is almost impossible to take her out. I went to visit her and I mentioned it once and she said "it is" and that was our whole celebration. Just a normal day. It was about the same for her birthday in July.

Daughter of a Marine · September 1

My DH and I have been together since I was 17 and he 19 - 56 years. 4 kids and 12 grandkids later, we have always been the most important person in one another's lives, truly the love of our lives. He is now in memory care and he has no awareness of time, day of the week, month, year, birthday (his or mine), holidays, or the fact that I see him every day. When he sees me he is excited and animated, even silly, but that doesn't mean he cooperates for a shower or when it's time to change for bed. He becomes extremely agitated and combative at those times. I no longer expect him to share in celebrations - those days are gone and are now only memories for our family. He seems content for the most part and for now, it's the most I can hope for. God bless all of you on this journey who continue to give without expectations.

charley0419 · September 1

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/73961/another-hit-to-my-heart

married 56 yrs wife doesn’t remember date also code for many everday things has no idea. That should be the worse thing she forgets as time goes by. Illness sucks!!!

White Crane · September 1

I know it hurts. My DH hasn't remembered our anniversary or his or my birthday in a long time. He's in MC now and when I visit him on those special days, I have no expectation that he will remember. What I do is try to make it special for him by bringing him a treat and a card and just spending time with him. I'm the memory keeper now but I do miss being able to share them with him.

JulietteBee · 3:14AM

My DM forgot my birthday this year for the first time in my life. It felt as if someone ripped my heart right out of my chest. It hurts, and hurts badly.😭

l7pla1w2 · 1:01PM

Birthdays and anniversaries were always more important to DW than to me. If she forgot my birthday, I didn't mind. But if I forgot hers, that was terrible. Now, though, time has no meaning to her. The days are endless, with nothing much to distinguish one from the next. It's ironic that I'm sad now because those events no longer have meaning for her.

Another hit to my heart

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