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My wife forgot her brother died in 2019

brooklynborn123
brooklynborn123 Member Posts: 37
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I know others have experienced this situation and I wondered if you have any advice for me. My wife told me last week today she was worried about her brother because she had not heard from him in awhile. I wasn’t sure how to respond—I didn’t want to say he was fine—but when I reminded her that he passed away she was shocked and, of course grief stricken. Fortunately, she forgot about it a half hour later. But then last night she brought it up again—ie that she was worried about her brother—I pretended not to hear and fortunately she didn’t press it but fell asleep. Any advice about how to handle this going forward?

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  • l7pla1w2
    l7pla1w2 Member Posts: 352
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    First piece of advice: Don't tell/remind your wife that her brother had died. If she says she's worried, you can say you just talked to him, and he's fine. If she wants to speak to him, pretend to call and say he didn't answer. In short, use fiblets to avoid causing your wife agitation or distress.

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