i am so confused

I do not know how many different types of dementia there are, but he sounds like so many of our spouses here. This does not sound age related. My husband is 81, I know other men and women his age that are perfectly fine. One of the first things I learned here, was their brain is broken. What they used to comprehend is now incomprehensible. I will hand my husband his nightly meds, watch him take them and 5 minutes later he will ask me if he took his medicine. He has a doctor appt this afternoon. Not even 30 minutes ago I reminded him. Just now he was going upstairs to get dressed. I told him to put clean clothes on (silly me) and he asked why. Did not remember the appt. I’m sorry you are going through this. You will most likely have to hand him his partials and watch him put them in. It’s like a forgetful child.

welcome. Glad you’re here but not for the reason. This is the place for info & support. It is not age related. The general term is “white matter disease” & Dementia is the overarching disease and there are several types. Alzheimer’s is a type of dementia. Some things to do immediately. Get your legal affairs in order. Meet with an elder care attorney. You will need a DPOA & Medical POA & HIPPA and wills. Read the book “The 36 Hour Day” which helped me after my husbands diagnosis. Search online for dementia caregiving videos. Tam Cummings and Teepa Snow have good ones. One thing I learned here is “you can’t reason with someone whose reasoner is broken” Search online for a chart that shows the 7 Srages of Dementia and the behaviors in each stage. It will give you a general idea. Behaviors can overlap stages and may not show until later. Look for the stage with the most behaviors your husband is having. Come here often for support or to vent. We understand what you’re going through.

Hello and welcome. You mentioned that he's started two new meds and he's exhausted all the time. Consider that it's a lot of work to live in the world when your brain doesn't work like it used to, and just being here can be exhausting. And also, the time of day he takes those meds can affect how they make him feel. My partner takes two antidepressants as well, and we went through a lot of trial and error to figure out the right timing and the right combinations. Observe closely for a week or two and see if you can tell if the meds are making him even more tired at certain times of day. If you're not getting the help you want from your neurologist, maybe a really good pharmacist could be helpful. When my mom was in a continuum-of-care assisted living, we had access to a pharmacist for consultation and questions and they were amazing.

Welcome. Being tired is a common dementia symptom. I agree with Sdianel that if you haven’t seen a lawyer, now is the time. I think the more you learn about dementia the easier it is (not that anything about this is easy). I have attached a staging tool you may find helpful and a good article. This is a great place for advice or to just rant.