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  • JeriLynn66
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    I'm praying for peace and comfort in this most difficult time.

  • easy23
    easy23 Member Posts: 303
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    I'm so sorry for all you've been through. I wish you peace in the days ahead.

  • Victoriaredux
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    Eloise -I am sorry to hear he passed but hope your faith gives you comfort . His struggles are over. You stood by him and got him the best care you could .

  • ronda b
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    So sorry for your loss. You did everything you needed to do for him. Breath grieve rest. He is resting now.❤️

  • BethL
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    Eloise, I am so sorry for your loss. You have been through the wringer. I truly hope someone will help you with dealing with this. If nothing else, you might benefit from talk therapy from a compassionate social worker or therapist. Take care of yourself. Hugs and prayers. Beth

  • Quilting brings calm
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    Eloise - I’m sorry for your loss. The speed at which your spouse declined made it so hard for you to process. I felt the same when my mom and step-dad each passed after just a short time on hospice. Please make use of the hospice’s grief counseling. I believe it’s available to you as part of their services.

  • tigersmom
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    Eloise, I am so very sorry for your heartbreaking loss. I lost my seemingly-stable husband in seven weeks' time after a hospitalization and a move to memory care. The speed with which this all happened to you will be very hard to deal with. I send you my sympathy, and my condolences. If hospice offers you bereavement counseling, please accept it. My heart goes out to you.

  • harshedbuzz
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    @Eloise0304

    I am sorry for the loss of your dear husband. You've had an especially traumatic situation; please extend yourself some grace as you try to process than.

    HB

  • ladyzetta
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    ((((((Eloise))))))) It's now time to take care of yourself, you have been through a lot. Please get some rest. Hugs Zetta 🌹🌹

  • wose
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    I’m so sorry for your loss. Please be kind to yourself, you did all you could for DH. I wish you peace and strength.

  • cdgbdr
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    I am so sorry for your loss. This happened quickly. Take care of yourself and know that you did all you could to make sure he received care. Please take advantage of the hospice bereavement services.

  • SDianeL
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    so sorry. Hospice has counselors and clergy you can speak with. Reach out to them. Or ask for the hospital Social Worker. Hugs. 💜

  • trottingalong
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    Eloise, I was saddened to read this. I hope you have time to process all that has happened and that hospice could help with suggestions of a support system.

  • SDianeL
    SDianeL Member Posts: 2,295
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    I’m so sorry for your loss. Praying for your comfort and strength in the days ahead. 💜

  • midge333
    midge333 Member Posts: 581
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    I am sorry for your loss. Please be kind to yourself.

  • Chance Rider
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    I’m sorry for your loss Eloise. Things happened so quickly and you had difficult decisions to make. I hope you find support to help you take care of yourself now.

  • Michele P
    Michele P Member Posts: 130
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    I am so sorry for your loss.

  • l7pla1w2
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    Oh, my! I am so sorry. Like many here, I have experienced anguish reading about your many difficulties with your DH. You deserve praise for how much you tried to help him. You have been through a lot. I hope you will take the time to let settle the many things that are probably swirling around in your head. And then, start to rebuild a life. You've earned it.

  • Eloise0304
    Eloise0304 Member Posts: 110
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    There is no starting a new life, it must be a life with remembrance and then trying to put one foot in front of the other…that is how I feel right now

  • Metta
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    Praying for you, Eloise.

  • jfkoc
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    Eloise…..please add my condolences.

    You have been through a rough time and are undoubtedly swallowed by grief, numb and worn out.

    Please know that we are always here for you and many who post have lost their loved ones and may be a comfort to you.

    You will be just putting one foot in front of the other for a while but I promise that you will find your way. Your life has been forever changed but you will find your way.

    Lean on us as needed…we will be here

  • Eloise0304
    Eloise0304 Member Posts: 110
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    It is not real if I do not tell anyone. I did reach out to his daughter, sister and 2 cousins , who are far away, and a deal friend who is also far away, A spiritual advisor sent by hospice comes to see me tomorrow and can give me some resources for bereavement groups. I am not ready to do anything, feel like I am in quick sand

    Please forgive my many posts.

  • annie51
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    Praying for you Eloise. No need to forgive anything - we are here for you no matter how many times you post. I’m glad a spiritual advisor will be coming over. I hope you can get the help you need to get through this. One foot in front of the other, as they say, but it will take some time. May you find the strength you need.

  • Eloise0304
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    I found people ( not on this community) were very present after My husband died and then they just tapered off as a little time went by. I think they don't know what to say or do, but their support was so needed and now I am all alone again. Does any one know of a support group in Ventura County? I am still so lost. I can't believe it has already been a week since he left me. Need some TLC...

  • Eloise0304
    Eloise0304 Member Posts: 110
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    In good time. Found a bereavement group near me Will check it out

  • Timmyd
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    Hi. Please keep coming back. I have appreciated the opportunity to read about your experiences. You are a valued member of this community. 🙂

  • annie51
    annie51 Member Posts: 432
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    The beauty of this forum is that there is always someone here for you when you need it. I, for one, try to get here every day but it’s not always possible.

  • wose
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    I’ve been thinking of you Eloise and hoping you can find a little comfort and peace. After my first hubby died, it took a very long time for me to come to terms with it. I will never stop grieving, but the awful emptiness and dread to go on will ease in time. Be gentle with yourself and go at your own pace. It’s not a do and get it over with. You will never get over such a profound loss but the remembrance you talked about will fill your days with joy again. In the end the good memories outweigh the not so good. I still talk to my first hubby…. It’s a connection in a way I don’t ever want to lose, even if it’s one sided. Deep breaths, baby steps and know that you did everything you could to help ease your DH distress. You were so valued and now it’s time for a rest in mind, body and spirit💜. We are still here for You.

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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