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Her Signs In Stage 8

Over the course of the weeks leading up to my dear wife's passing. strange things kept occurring, signs if you believe, that she was providing. There were so many "coincidences" that we began to believe that was something more at play. I am uneasy even writing that here or saying it publicly. But, they continue. Images in art work noticed after 15 years of never seeing them, lost items dearly loved but thought gone forever materializing, and more. And then today on the anniversary date of my own mother's passing 16 years ago , I was startled awake at 4:52 am by the voice of my departed wife who left us about a month ago. It was unmistakable, it was crystal clear, it was her voice and only her voice calling out my name. It was quite close in time to the moment she took her final breath. Only one word, my name, but strong enough that it startled me from a sound sleep causing me to bolt upright in the bed and look all around for her. This painful grieving for her is continuous and I know it will play with my mind but I want to believe in my heart that it was her voice calling to me as she sat with my mother. How could it happen so clearly and on the same date as my mother's passing, also in the early hours that day.

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  • BPS
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    I have not experienced anything like that but several family members have told me of similar experiences they have had. Thanks for posting

  • Dio
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    I haven't experienced personally but have heard others talk about them. I do believe.

  • Chance Rider
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    I have, on two occasions, had loved ones leave me a sign. Both had passed away years apart when I lived in my previous home. A few months after moving about 3 hours away each made their presence known on separate occasions. It was comforting. I took it to mean that even with the move they were still with me. It’s been 20 years, I’d love to know they’re still here. Especially now.

  • Chance Rider
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    edited September 21

    I like the custom as well. One of the people who visited me was my partner who was Japanese. There was a small tabletop shrine/alter in the dining room where we’d leave offerings for his father, usually sake and tidbits for food.

    With my husband’s dementia my veggie garden is my “therapy spot”. I like the idea of a shrine outside in my garden. Thank you for mentioning yours.

  • Chance Rider
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    @wose that must have been awesome! Thank you for sharing a glimpse of your experience! So many places I had hoped to travel to before this journey started. For now I’ll live vicariously through others.

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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