Our experience with MC respite

Sept 1, I took my DH /alz stage 6 to a memory care facility for a 30 day respite . I wanted to rest and declutter . I told him the doctor wanted to monitor his medications and he said OK. The only opening was a shared room with a gentlemen with a lot of personal belongings . My DH insisted those items were his and frequently took the roommates items and put them on his side of the room. I was able to enlist the help of my sisters, stepdaughter and teenage grandsons and I did indeed get my home declutter /cleaning project completed. On day 12, I received a call from the MC that said my husband had a fall and was having difficulty walking and in pain. I took him to his primary doctors hospital and he was admitted with a fractured L1 ( lower back) . My DH was not cooperative with the staff but did take the pain meds, go for the CT, X-rays and MRI. It was discussed and I consented to kyphoplasty to hopefully stop the pain. “ simple” procedure often completed on seniors and it was successful. I spent 6.5 days ( nights) at the hospital so no respite there. When it was time to be released from the hospital, I took him back home with me rather than return to the MC. We have PT at home to make sure his back stays relaxed and does not tighten up. Next month is my DH annual physical and I will request palliative care and tell them I do not want my husband to have any more hospital admissions. So,,,, my apartment is clean and decluttered, but I am still tired . I do not think I will consider typical MC again, but perhaps a smaller group home community or tough it out at home with increased home help.