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How to help mom when dad has the disease

csandholm
csandholm Member Posts: 2
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My mom and dad are living in a memory care facility. My dad has Alzheimers and my mom does not. My dad is in the later stages of the disease and has recently begun calling my mom his ex-wife AND has been seen holding hands with other female residents. My mom has been sobbing uncontrollably. She's feeling guilty when she leaves the unit to play bingo because it seems to get worse after she returns. Has anyone else experienced this and have some ideas for supporting my mom? Educating her on the disease and reassuring her that it's the disease and not her? Things she can do to support herself? Anything would be greatly appreciated.

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  • SDianeL
    SDianeL Member Posts: 2,273
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    the book “The 36 Hour Day” is helpful but not sure if that topic is covered. I would Google for articles on inappropriate behavior of those with dementia. I would speak to the nurse at the facility to see if they can separate him and the other patient. They should be watching them closely. There are several older posts on this subject you can search for. The search thingy is at the top of the page.

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DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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