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Memory Care Day 1

annie51
annie51 Member Posts: 472
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Today I took my DH to MC. Such a hard decision to make and a hard, hard thing to actually do. The staff was wonderfully welcoming, giving him big hugs, making him feel valued. I got an update this afternoon that he was doing well, had a good lunch, checked out every inch of the place, walked the path outside, enjoyed listening to some piano music. The monthly family night is happening now with an Oktoberfest party (I chose to stay away for a couple of days). I hope he’ll have a good night. 🤞
As for me, tears of course for the first few hours, felt very strange being in an empty house. Then I visited a friend and sat in a lounge chair and had a REAL conversation without interruption. I called my sister and had a nice long talk. I’m feeling a little bit at peace right now. That will probably only last until I go to bed alone. 😞

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  • cdgbdr
    cdgbdr Member Posts: 278
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    The report is encouraging. I'm just a little a month into placing DH. I cried for weeks leading up to it. I took a vacation this week and we are both adjusting.

  • Chance Rider
    Chance Rider Member Posts: 116
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    I’ve been thinking of you and hoping it went well today. I’m glad you took the opportunity to visit with your friend and talk with your sister. Good to hear that your husband is doing well. Thanks for sharing your update Hugs to you as you both settle into a new chapter on this journey.

  • SDianeL
    SDianeL Member Posts: 2,462
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    glad to hear it went well. I know how difficult it was for you. I’ve been thinking of you all day. Hugs. 💜

  • Karen711
    Karen711 Member Posts: 207
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    It sounds like it was as good a start as there could be. It’s great you were able to talk with your sister and spend time with your friend! Sending you a hug and my best wishes that your DH will settle in peacefully!

  • jgreen
    jgreen Member Posts: 52
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    Hi, Annie!

    So glad day #1 went well. Just like you did on this first day, keep yourself busy the next couple of days. DH has caring and knowledgeable staff making sure he has structure to his days, you should do the same. You are strong! Take care that you stay strong.

    Hugs and prayers to you.

  • CindyBum
    CindyBum Member Posts: 564
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    Thank you for the update and so glad your DH is doing well there.

    Big hug

  • wose
    wose Member Posts: 289
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    Thinking of you💜

  • midge333
    midge333 Member Posts: 609
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    I am glad it went well thus far. It was the hardest thing I have ever done but it was best for both of us.

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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