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charitylangrell
charitylangrell Member Posts: 1
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Hi my name is Charity and for the last 4 years I have been the live in sole cargiver for my daughter in laws aunt and was for her uncle before he passed. I have worked in Healthcare for 28 years and memory care and dementia have been the majority part of my career. I never thought of how hard it would be to become the live in cargiver and never clocking out and going home to get recharged. Im not complaining I am blessed to have this opportunity to be able to keep someone home but I sure would appreciate prayers.

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  • Robert1320
    Robert1320 Member Posts: 10
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    I understand.

    I once worked in a LTCF. It's a lot harder caring for someone I care about and being on duty every day. And there was the support provided by working as a team member with other medical professionals. I didn't have to make all the decisions myself, often I only had to implement prescribed procedures.

    Through this group I've been learning how to detach myself from the disease, but not the person. And how important it is to take care of myself, as well as my LO. Also, how not to argue or overreact. It has made caregiving a little easier, one day at a time.

  • SDianeL
    SDianeL Member Posts: 2,413
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    welcome. Is there any way you can get respite help to get away a few hours? Many people can’t do full time caregiving without help. It affects you both mentally and physically. You do need to recharge. We know what you’re going through.

  • sandwichone123
    sandwichone123 Member Posts: 1,086
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    There is a world of difference between forty hours a week with coworkers to chat with and 24/7 with no adult company. Days off and nights with no responsibility make a huge difference. I'm going to say 4 years of (paid? unpaid?) responsibility for your daughter-in-law's family is enough and they should implement their Plan B.

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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