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Atrophy of hands

My DH is in the middle stages of Alzheimer’s and has been developing atrophy of the hands making it hard to button shirts, open jars or do a lot of things requiring finger dexterity. He is going to PT but is told each visit that he needs to do a set of exercises to 30 minutes to 1 hour a day. I have to keep reminding him to do these and actually help him remember how to do each exercise. I am getting tired of having to convince him to do them because he is very resistant. He says he needs to do them but keeps saying he will do them later. This is taking up a lot of my time and I don’t know at what point to back off or keep after him about it. What does anyone think I should do?

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  • trottingalong
    trottingalong Member Posts: 825
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    My husband has carpal tunnel with numbing of the fingers which causes him to drop things often. He also has atrophy of both thumbs. I have given up on attempting to help or encourage exercise at this point. He forgets he should do them and then complains they don’t make a difference if we attempt to do some stretching. His mind isn’t going to get better, nor are his lungs (emphysema) so the best I can do is keep him as comfortable as possible.

  • SDianeL
    SDianeL Member Posts: 2,496
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    you could try right after breakfast and say it’s time to do them. Promise him a treat. Ice cream, car ride, etc. If he resists, I would try again the next day. If that fails I would give up. The problem is that he no longer remembers how to do them and doesn’t understand times of day. Would a stress ball to squeeze work?

  • Maru
    Maru Member Posts: 231
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    You can work to keep your LO as fit as possible but in the end it is the brain that is going to dictate what the muscles will do. I am not quite a defeatist. If your LO was willing to do the exercizes that would be great but, as it is, it seems that the only exercize being done is you using your voice to remind him to do something that he isnt' doing. You don't have the power to make him do anything he doesn't want to do, even if it would be helpful to him. He may not have the cognition to connect the dots between exercizes and his being able to have better control of his hands.

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DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
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MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
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