Intimacy.

Big Papa2760 · November 18

Moderators.

R we allowed to asked questions about intimacy? The issue was I was showing my wife of 45 years, and I became visibly aroused. She got highly agitated and started filing her hands etc. I was able to get her out of the shower and calmed downed. this has never happened since she has had dementia. Has anyone else had such an issue and how do you prevent it from happening again.

SDianeL · November 18

I’m not a moderator but many caregivers have posted questions about intimacy. I have listed below some reasons your DW may have reacted the way she did. You can’t stop her reaction because she can’t reason. You can only control what you do. Maybe you could hire a female caregiver to bathe your wife?

Brain changes: Dementia affects the parts of the brain responsible for sexual desire, inhibitions, and behavior, leading to unpredictable changes in how a person expresses the need for intimacy.
Confusion and memory loss: Forgetting who a partner is or not understanding the nature of their relationship can lead to fear and confusion, making intimacy difficult.