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What Is Looking After Yourself

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  • howhale
    howhale Member Posts: 161
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    So sorry for your situation and it reads much like mine did before my wife passed. I used the time before my wife was awake in the mornings until her sleep pattern changed and eliminated those windows of opportunity. I was finally able to find a couple caregivers who could work with AD patients to come a few hours to allow me time if only to sit alone and close my eyes. Just those few hours enabled me to carry on. I never did actually sleep and used the time for necessary things, groceries, bills, etc. But that little time sure helped. I hope you can find caregivers who can assist. I did have to go through a few to find ones who knew what to expect with an AD patient. Many only have useful experience with physically impaired, not mentally impaired, and those failed.

  • Abby627
    Abby627 Member Posts: 35
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    I’m just reading through posts and came upon yours. I have the exact same problem. They said I can’t get any help because my DH was “just in the Naval Air Reserves”. Like they wouldn’t have gone if they were called. It makes me so mad!

  • howhale
    howhale Member Posts: 161
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    That response from the VA just disgusts me. These men and women took the oath, stepped across that line, signed that blank check to our country to give all if required. That they did not get called to active duty should in no way diminish the significance and value of their service. What we do NOT do for our service people just absolutely tarnishes our country. We must do better for all our people and it needs to start with our military and first responders. So sorry you and others get this terrible treatment.

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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