What Is Looking After Yourself

I'm a caregiver for my dad, and for a long time, looking after myself felt impossible, so I get you. In my opinion, you can never truly look after yourself, because my dad is more important in most situations. But, still, I have found some ways to not be engaged 24/7, and I am feeling better mentally since then.

I learned how to use essential oils for "olfactory anchors". I'd use a specific smell only when I am taking a break, so that now just smelling it briefly helps instantly pull me out of a caregiver mindset. Another helpful thing was using certain gadgets or devices to help me out. For example, I set up the JubileeTV box, which helps me keep an eye on him remotely without installing a surveillance system. I finally feel comfortable leaving the house without constantly worrying about him. It has some other helpful features, like setting reminders, controlling the TV remotely, and making a video call even if the TV is off. That is all helpful in case of emergencies.

Also, I discovered that I really needed to learn to delegate non-caregiving tasks to people who offered to help, like letting my friend do the grocery run or pick up the dry cleaning, so I could save my energy only for the things my dad needs me for. I am still trying to get a hold of that, since I always feel guilty about someone doing my responsibilities.