Adolescent Behavior

Momx3 · December 10

My DH who I think is in beginning to mid stage 5 acts like a 12 year old. I work full time but when I get home the constant wise cracks and jokes begin. We can’t have any kind of conversation or watch tv because he is constantly trying to make funny wisecracks and sexual innuendo’s. Anyone else experience this?

H1235 · December 10

I don’t have experience with the wise cracks, but the adolescent behavior I can understand. If you notice on the dbat staging tool it actually gives an age equivalence at each stage. My mom once told me she could do whatever she wanted because I wasn’t the boss of her. It’s like she is aging backwards.

Call me Gram · December 10

I'm not seeing adolescent behavior, but rather childish behavior. For brief moments, I fall into the trap of thinking I can talk to DH like he's an adult, and then he acts like a defiant child - arguing about everything. It's a hard adjustment, realizing our PWD is not who they used to be. My heart goes out to you, Momx3.

SDianeL · December 10

Dementia can cause arguing like a 12-year-old due to brain changes that impair judgment, communication, and impulse control, leading to frustration, emotional outbursts, paranoia, and a regression to childlike behaviors like stubbornness, irrationality, and defiance, often triggered by fear, confusion, or loss of control, not deliberate manipulation. I learned here: Never argue with someone with dementia and 2) you can’t reason with someone whose reasoner is broken. Dementia causes the brain to age backward to eventually become like a toddler. Found these tips online:
How to Respond

Stay Calm & Validate: Take a breath and acknowledge their feelings, even if the reality is different.
Redirect & Distract: Change the subject, move to a different room, or offer a calming activity (music, a snack).
Simplify & Reassure: Speak slowly, looking them in the eyes, keep tasks simple, and provide comfort.
Find the Trigger: Look for unmet needs (pain, bathroom, boredom, confusion).
Enter Their Reality: Sometimes agreeing with an untrue statement helps them feel better and de-escalates the situation.

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Momx3 · December 10

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thanks for the info SDianel it’s hard sometimes but you are right.

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