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Losing the better half

StanAlone
StanAlone Member Posts: 2
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I lost my wife to this dreaded disease on Oct 12, and I cannot to the tears. I loved her so much and I took care of her by buying whatever was needed to make her comfortable. I made sure she was clean all of the time and when she was calling out for a drink, I was there.

I bought her a hospital bed, a Pure Wick, A floating mattress, and a Hoyer lift to make her comfortable. I refused to let the hospital put he in their hospice, so we did it at home. She died in my arms, and I wouldn't have it any other way.

This is the part of life that isn't so good. I am having a real difficult time.

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  • Klako
    Klako Member Posts: 54
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    I cannot imagine losing a spouse to this dreaded disease. You were a loving husband and did all you could for her. In the end we all wish we could save our loved ones from all of the ugliness this disease brings. My prayers go our to you as you try to navigate each day without your soul mate. Try to find peace in the love and all you gave her.

  • jen ht
    jen ht Member Posts: 124
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    Our hands in yours.

    Please do come by and share how you are getting along. Thinking of you. 💜

  • SDianeL
    SDianeL Member Posts: 2,666
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    https://alzconnected.org/discussion/74822/losing-the-better-half

    I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my husband in Aug 2024. I know exactly how you feel. Search online for Grief Share. They have online support and in person support groups at local churches. I’m checking into them in my area. There is a section in this online community for those of us who have lost someone. It’s called Supporting those who have lost someone. Feel free to post there. There are a few of us who have posted there recently. Give yourself time to grieve. Everyone grieves in their own way. She was fortunate to have you caring for her in such a loving way. I read this recently: “Grief is the price we pay for love” and that is so true. 💜

  • StanAlone
    StanAlone Member Posts: 2
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    Thank you for responding. I know that the grieving never ends, and I hope you are doing well. I am not ready to reach out to any groups. I need to acknowledge her passing and why first.

    Stan

  • Anonymousjpl123
    Anonymousjpl123 Member Posts: 875
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    I am so so sorry for your loss. It sounds so difficult but I am so glad you were together through the end. It will take some time to heal. She is resting easy now. I wish you peace and healing and it is ok to grieve.

  • ARIL
    ARIL Member Posts: 279
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    My sympathy in your sad loss. You walked her all the way home. Give yourself time and grace.

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DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
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