Newly diagnosed with Dementia. Caregiver.

My DH is stage 5. Can’t operate his phone or the tv remote, must be prompted to use the bathroom so he doesn’t have an accident, has word finding difficulties so he can’t communicate well, no short term memory so he asks the same questions over and over, sometimes he sees people who aren’t there, and doesn’t remember who I am much of the time (we’ve been married 49 yrs).

I did have a lot of anger and sadness starting in 2021 when I realized what was happening.
I have not read any books on dementia and Alzheimer’s. But starting back in March of this year when I found this forum, I did start reading most of the postings and answers (starting with the older postings and coming forward).
There’s so much advice and wisdom here, and this is how I came to the acceptance of our situation.

You have to be able to reach acceptance. My DH was a highly accomplished, highly intelligent guy with a quick witty sense of humor that always made me chuckle, and sadly that guy is gone. You have to be able to reach acceptance and honor him for what he was. And read everything on this forum that you can.

You are absolutely correct @Sunfish47 ,”you have to be able to reach acceptance”

I spent far too long fighting with it and our lives were totally miserable. When I look back it pains me to review my actions and behaviors in the beginning. Knowledge is key. That’s how I became a much more loving caregiver to my DH. Not understanding equaled anger. Understanding equaled love and acceptance.