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I've been sick. Now depressed and worried.

White Crane
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Right before Thanksgiving, a virus was going around DH MC and he got it. So did I. We both got pneumonia. This is the second time I have gotten pneumonia this year and it is really taking me down. My energy and strength are low and I am still coughing. On top of that, I have been having trouble with my legs. They tingle and ache. An EMG ( nerve conduction study) last week showed problems in both legs but mostly in my right one. At times I feel rather wobbly and off balance. I will see a back doctor on Jan. 8th and I am scared and very anxious. It seems like my health is going downhill and I don't know what to do about it. I am still trying to visit DH three times a week but it is getting harder. His health isn't great either and he has lost weight and has trouble talking. Also, my brother is in an assisted living facility and I help him as much as possible. Right now though I feel so depressed and tired that it is hard to function.

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  • Jgirl57
    Jgirl57 Member Posts: 803
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    Hope you feel better soon. Sorry you are feeling so down. Time for chicken soup and give yourself permission to stay home and rest.

  • SDianeL
    SDianeL Member Posts: 3,177
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    So sorry. Take care of yourself . My thoughts and prayers are with you. Big hug! 💜

  • Chance Rider
    Chance Rider Member Posts: 269
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    One of my favorite sayings is “you can’t pour from an empty cup”. Time to priortize your own care. Easier said than done but necessary. {{{Hugs}}}

  • wose
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    I’m so sorry. You need rest and someone to take care of you for a change. The toll visiting alone takes on you has to be rough and then throw in the emotional and now your physical illnesses…. it’s too much. I know it’s easier said than done but try to scale back even more and take time for yourself. Recovering from pneumonia alone is very hard. I know how you feel in regards to pain. It seems to be a cycle because pain and fatigue and feeling depressed all go together. I try mightily with this and fail….but then keep trying. I lost 50lbs in a short time so I’m trying to eat and drink healthy. I try to use my treadmill and bike more when DH is still. Sleep is hard but I’m using a sound machine and stretching more. For depression I listen to music and just may take up guitar lessons. It’s all so unbelievably difficult to muster through. Prayers and hugs for you!💜

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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