Crying out of nowhere.
It’s funny how certain things will trigger our emotions. My DW and I were sitting comfortably in our recliners last night listening to Christmas music. We were both enjoying the time and then came an Elvis Christmas song “Santa bring my baby back to me”. Out of nowhere I just lost it and started weeping.
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Oh no. I'm so sorry, and I can certainly understand how those words would hit like a brick.
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Hey Sparky, I find that in those calm times ( which are rare) that that is when the emotions swell up the most. You are not alone in these occurrences.
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(((Hugs)))
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Yep. Big hug!
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So many triggers and boom it’s Niagara Falls again. I’m sorry…big squeeze for you!💜
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I can so relate to the emotional "Sparks" that trigger my emotions. Could be embarassing at times if I let it be. Seems I've been a stellar example of real man "can" cry lately.
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so sorry. I know how you feel. Hugs. 💜
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Sending a big hug your way.
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Sending a big hug to all of us. I too was caught off guard today by my own emotional tidal wave. DW tucked into bed now and I will choose to believe tomorrow will be better somehow.
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Happens to us all at unexpected moments, even after we have lost them. All the pent up grief we hold, keeping it in day by day to protect our loved one, sometimes just spills out. I found it frightened my dear wife, since she did not understand what was happening, so I used little white lies to cover and tried harder to not let it happen in front of her but it can be uncontrollable. It is a sign of how much you love her.
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I get it. We were watching a Christmas movie and the fireplace was on. The movie soundtrack stated playing a certain Christmas song and I was transported back to our courting days 67 years ago and relived all those feelings that I had the Christmas we got engaged. Music has a way of bringing out old memories, feelings and so on. Lately, I've been looking at him with new eyes…really, the old eyes I had at 18, and the love that I felt in our early years, remembering who he was when I fell in love with him. DH is probably stage 4 Alz and I find him staring at me while we watch TV and then he tells me how beautiful I am. I have a feeling that he will not be in Stae 4 for much longer and that both of us are treasuring what we still have right now and trying to hang onto that. Nostalga (sp?) can be really bittersweet.
Hang in there BlackSparky and hang onto the good.
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It happens to me ln a regular basis. I'll be sitting there watching a movie and a song starts to play or a character says something and all of a sudden I'm crying my eyes out. Even the good memories can bring me to tears. Hugs.
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I can relate to this post and many of the comments. Never know when the floodgates will open and I cannot always control it. If I don’t “have” to control it, I let it flow - I feel I need to let it out when I can. If I want to keep my composure, some deep breaths seem to help most times.
Sending hugs to you all as we try to “get through” another Christmas and find some joy in the season.6 -
The tears flow a word, a song, a look, Love Actually and Christmas Carols. Sitting on the grass in the dark with our daughter, watching the live performances with tears streaming down my face. It’s so hard and it seems it never leaves me no matter what I am doing. Mixing with understanding friends, at a family BBQ or wandering through the shops with my DH I can’t completely forget or get rid of the awful feeling of loss, of the …. nothing really matters anymore. It’s very sad and yet I am or I always was a very positive self assured happy sociable person. How do you cope with this sadness what do you do with this feeling of grief. You can’t share it with the one you love, he doesn’t even notice anymore, empathy and understanding has gone. Any clues would be great.
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