DH is going to MC and I am not OK

I’ve been quiet for a while and my DH has gotten much worse in the past 6 months after having back surgery and spine injections without any pain relief. Naturally, this along with the pain pills have caused him to go downhill. He is solidly in stage 6 of vascular dementia (eight years into this journey). Our grown kids had an intervention with me several weeks ago that it is time for him to go to a facility. I picked a really wonderful one, central to our grown kids and myself. I am not doing well with any of this. It’s been really hard on me. The kids insisted for my mental health and theirs, it was time. We have a vacation home, I took him there with a caregiver, and we are now back home and time is nearing for me to take him to his new home. I am gut-wrenched over this. I don’t want to be apart from him. I have full time caregivers in the home but not overnight and there are issues all the time now. The house is dangerous for him and it has just come time to place him where he is safe and secure 24/7. I’m really, really struggling. I feel like I am sending him away because I can’t deal with it (I can’t) and then I will suffer being alone in our home. I did okay when he was in rehab but I always knew he was coming home. Does anyone have any words of wisdom or advice for me? I hate that I can’t handle this with maturity, class and grace. I’m a weepy mess. 😢😭 🙏🏼