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What to do when they won't move

Flowers456
Flowers456 Member Posts: 24
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What can we do, or who can we contact, when our person won't move, not even to use the restroom?

We went to the ER a few days ago when my husband complained of pain and could not get out of bed. Once at the hospital, he didn't have any more pain, so they sent us home.

Today, he's on the couch and wants a cup to pee in instead of walking to the restroom.

Does anyone help with this?

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  • JDancer
    JDancer Member Posts: 565
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    If you're in the US, it might be time for a hospice assessment.

  • SDianeL
    SDianeL Member Posts: 3,193
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    they forget how to stand and sit. You might try standing in front of him and taking both hands in yours and telling him we’re going to stand up now and gently pull on his hands. It works for my sister. When he sits down, back him up to the chair and say sit down. Have you read the book “The 36 Hour Day? That helped me.

  • SDianeL
    SDianeL Member Posts: 3,193
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    • Physical Decline: Dementia affects motor skills, causing weakness, poor balance, or difficulty initiating movement.
    • Fear/Anxiety: Fear of falling, being embarrassed, or getting lost.
    • Confusion/Cognitive Block: Forgetting why they need to go, not understanding the request, or being overwhelmed by steps.
    • Pain/Discomfort: Arthritis, UTI, or other underlying issues making movement painful.
  • Iris L.
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    Sitting too long makes all the joints ache. He should stand and take a few steps around every hours, if possible. Range of motion stretches in the chair are useful also. Expect this to get worse.

    Iris

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