Valentine's Day when it feels more arrows than wings

Victoriaredux · February 8

Came across a touching article about VDay as a caregiver. Posted on a site with a lot of politics & has a religious bent so I'm not posting the link, but easy to find .

Just search for "When you’re carrying the love alone on Valentine’s Day Peter Rosenberg"

{hugs to everyone}

RetiredTeacher · February 8

Another take on Valentines Day. Although it will not be the same as romantic Valentines Days of the past 40 yrs, i have decided i want one more VDay with my DH. There is a Valentines Dinner special at a local steak house we used to go to. I know we will both enjoy the food and I will remember the good times of yrs gone by. I dont know how many more Valrntine's Days we have left and while he is still able to feed himself and sit up in a booth, I wasn't one more Hurrah. I have realistic expectations,: hobbling to the table, stowing the walker during dinner, a zillion trips to the bathroom and watching so he can find his way back, ordering for him, cutting his steak and watching him suck his fingers that always get messy…..Years ago that scenario would have really put me off and I wouldn't imagine going....Now I am looking forward to one more Valenine's date with my DH.

howhale · February 9

Oh how I envy your strength in having one more Valentine's day with your loved one. As this next one in 2026 arrives, it will be the first without my dear wife. I think I lacked your strength to just put aside my embarrassment(?) and go out to eat a last time. Now, I cannot do that and it becomes one of my lasting regrets which I cannot undo. Enjoy your dinner, ignore others and relish that moment and the memories it will create. You are an example for others and a strong, loving caregiver for your husband.