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Something Good Happened.

I’ve known my husband has Alzheimer’s for quite a few years, but recently was told he has mixed dementia Alzheimer’s/vascular. Even though he hasn’t smoked in years, the damage was done. He has phone contact with 3 siblings. One brother lives an hour away with his wife. We have not seen them in 12 years and her name was never spoken. At one time we were close. For a reason we never knew she cut us and the rest of my husbands family out of their lives. She was a hardcore alcoholic but has now been sober for a few years. They are the only family living close. So I wrote an email updating the siblings about my husband and his current status. At the end I told my brother in law that he and his wife J were always welcome here. That same afternoon my BIL text asking if they could come visit. I was so happy. Decided not to tell my husband and surprise him. The visit was yesterday, 3 hours. Filled with laughter and memories. My husband was so happy. I’m not sure what he remembers of the visit now, but he sure had a good day and it was worth it. They plan on more visits over the summer.

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  • MaryMN
    MaryMN Member Posts: 39
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    Sometimes all it takes is for somebody to make the first move - good for you for doing so! So happy that you were able to reconnect; so sorry that so many years were wasted. Treasure the good times.

  • wose
    wose Member Posts: 362
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    On my very gloomy day, you made my heart soar. Thank you for sharing positivity. Sometimes just hearing good stories helps. I hope the visits continue. Every little ray of sunshine helps our PWD. It must of felt wonderful.

  • jgreen
    jgreen Member Posts: 216
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    What a great story @trottingalong ! So happy for all of you! I hope there are more visits down the road.

    Thank you for sharing!

  • annie51
    annie51 Member Posts: 568
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    Thank you for sharing such a positive story! We tend to focus so much on the negatives - that’s where we need the most help. But these positive stories give people hope and something to smile about.

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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