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A Spark Of Joy … follow up

Biggles
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I did it I now have my power boat licence. Thank you all so much for your support and wonderful words of encouragement.

It felt so odd just for a short time thinking about me. I felt selfish, it felt wrong I had to keep pulling myself back to the job in hand (ha ha so important driving a boat literally around in circles on the water, up on the plane then 6 knots and no wash etc etc) but for a very short time it was important especially to the instructor, it was his livelihood. My DH also had a new experience he was with his carer for the first time for 2 1/2 hours. We met Craig the week before and he was just great casual, young about 45, easy going, talked male talk football, cricket, fishing. After three failed attempts at carers I was on guard but Craig was good, kind and caring without smothering, so hopefully he will be around for a while. The stress levels I went through to do this were enormous but it was worth it. As @howhale and so many others have said fight and fight hard don’t give up. We are all they have, they are all we have.

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  • jgreen
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    Dear @Biggles It is uplifting stories like this that I (we) crave these days! So thank you from the bottom of my heart!

    My story today = DH initiated and played his own version of solitaire yesterday! He refused to play with me for several days - I think he was intimidated. So imagine my surprise and big smile when I looked up from doing the dishes and he was engaged in his own card game. That independent man I married 52 years ago (on Feb 16th) is still there, even if only fleetingly.

    Hugs to you, your DH and Craig! 💝💝💝

  • trottingalong
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    I was so excited to read this! Wish I was there to give you a big hug of congratulations. Quite the woman you are for pursuing this and accomplishing your goal. You did it! And you deserve it. I hope Craig continues to be available so you can get more time doing things that you enjoy. My dream is to go on a trail ride with my horse again one day. You give me hope.

  • CindyBum
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    Huzzah!

  • wose
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    I was thinking of you and wondering how it went. This is absolutely the best news. I really need some of your fighting spirit! Please don’t feel selfish. You deserve every crumb of joy you can get. Thank you for letting us know.. Every little victory feels so great. Thank You Craig🥳 Oh and Congratulations on getting your license.

  • Biggles
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    Wow jgreen that is incredible my DH can’t make sense of figures anymore on cards or a clock face. What a lovely little bit of joy.

  • Jgirl57
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    Congratulations!!!!!

  • Biggles
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    Thank you @trottingalong I feel really humble with all the comments. I’m not sure what it does for me, it doesn’t change things, I still cry, I still hold my DH and snuggle close and dance in the kitchen, I still think for all of us, it’s so unfair the straw we have drawn, but I smile at my achievement small as it is. Go for the horse riding, set the goal and plod through the challenges. Work on it at, least you have a goal.

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DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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