Actual caregiving tip...

Groovy's Girl · March 30

My DH and i have entered a new stage and I need tips for two issues.

He won't let me take off his t-shirt. Tried like always to take it off for the shower and he holds out his arms to stop me. Tried later to change it for a clean one and again, a no -go. Any ideas?
He is willingly wearing Depends which is helpful since he can walk around all day and night and I don't have to stress about accidents, but I can't get him to sit on the toilet with any regularity. I used to take him every three/four hours, but he now refuses. So it makes it very difficult to get him changed. Any wisdom?

ronda b · March 31

With my DH is would say after a few days of him not changing, wow that shirt looks pretty dirty. Hers a clean one. Sometimes it worked Sometimes not.

sandwichone123 · March 31

Pulling the t-shirt up from the back and over the head can be easier sometimes. Then it's just hanging from his arms so you can slip it off his arms right away or later.

tboard · March 31

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/75681/actual-caregiving-tip

My DH forgot how to put his clothes on and take them off and he hated it when I tried to help. Initially he refused to wear pull ups and sometimes I managed to get one on him I would find it ripped up with pieces all over the floor. From what I have seen these are common experiences not wanting to change clothes or wear pull-ups. I used a few strategies to get him in clean clothes. Begging and offering treats worked most of the time. Whenever he cooperates I thank him profusely. I use the past tense because after years of struggling to care for him he ended up in the hospital and now in memory care. I cannot afford it and I miss him but I am enjoying a little freedom.

blacksparky · March 31

My DW no longer showers daily like she used to. She also wears the same clothes all day and night for many days. I try to get her to shower at least once a week. She will wear her clothes in the shower and I eventually convince her to disrobe while there. I help her wash her hair and body and when she’s done, I guide her out of shower and she dries herself. I have a new set of clothes ready for her. The cycle then starts all over. 😩

BPS · March 31

I got my wife some T shirts the snap together. You can take them completely apart or just one side so nothing had to go over her head. I got them on Amazon and it was because of a broken arm but they might help make it easier if he just don't want anything going over his head.

Jeff H · 2:37AM

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I'm there with you! I try to convince my DW to shower but it's a struggle. We are on day 5 now. She too wears the same clothes all day and night for days. I try to convince her to wear fresh underwear, but she refuses. Tonight she actually wore the pajamas that I placed on our bed. I think it's about timing. My DW said that she would take a shower in the morning…

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