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DH with ES Dementia

Hi, My DH refuses to see neurologist and has been diagnosed with Cognitive decline. We saw his primary who has been treating him and he has been taking mementine. He is very argumentative with me. I am the caregiver and I get no respect from him. I want to hire someone to come in once a week as a companion to him so I can get out of the house to run errands. I need a break. He gets up at all hours early morning to go outside to walk our dogs. I get up to stop him. During the day all he wants to do is watch tv & walk the dogs. I try to engage him in activities but get nowhere. I was hoping to find a support group online and have not found any.

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  • Lala88
    Lala88
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    Hi - I just joined this group, but have been caring for my DH for a few years now. He has early onset genetic ALZ. He was on memantine and donepezil for a couple of years when he developed paranoid delusions. He was exhibiting similar behaviors getting up at all hours of the night taking the dog out. It was a living nightmare, and I had to put my foot down and tell him that he was either going to the senior center or he would have to go into MC. We also took him off the donepezil. Getting him to the senior center (aka Adult Daycare) has been a life saver for me. My DH is 14 years older than I & I still have to work. They provide him with breakfast and lunch - the bus picks him up and brings him home. I know that he's safe while I am at work, which is a relief. The biggest change is that he is not sitting around obsessing about what I'm doing or looking at his phone all day (don't get me started on the scammers).

    I can't go to local support groups because they all seem to be during the day. My councilor recommended that I try going an online support group. Does that exist or is it just message boards?

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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