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After Years of Caregiving, Uncle w/Dementia Needs Remote Support - Affordable Tech/Dev Suggestions
I'm at a major crossroads and feeling a huge mix of relief, guilt, and stress. I'm hoping for some practical advice, especially from those who've managed long-distance care for someone with dementia. For the past few years, my life has been completely dedicated to caring for my uncle. He got divorced about 10 years ago and…
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home care vs assisted living
My mom has Alzheimers and my dad has dementia. I'm trying to decide whether to place them in an assisted living facility or hire 24/7 home health care in their home. They live in NY and I'm in MA. Does anyone have experience with either? I'm trying to think of a list of pros and cons. Thanks.
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New Role as Conservator and Guardian after Theft by POA
After a difficult effort to force my sister's POA (her son) to resign when we discovered he had taken more than half of her wealth, I am stepping into the role of her conservator and guardian which I am doing from across the country. My sister, who is in a moderate stage of dementia, is safe in an assisted living residence…
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Advice for getting help for cousin
My cousin, with no immediate family, has been showing signs of dementia for over a year. I live in another state and cannot travel due to husband's health issue. I've talked to her friends and asked for their help,but no one wants to be the one to tell my cousin, or take her to doctor. Is there a good way for me to tell…
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Not Sure What Is Happening to Mom
Hi everyone - I’m new here and I’m kind of just looking for info and maybe some small emotional support. My mom is 73 and for the last 3-4 years she has been having random mood swings and changes in personality. Most of the time when I speak to her, she has a circular conversation and repeats the same story over and over.…
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New Here & Just Trying To Keep Up
I’ve been feeling really overwhelmed and alone, and I’m so thankful to have found this group. I’m 29 and live in Georgia. My mom is 65, lives alone in Florida, and was recently diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. My parents are divorced, and my sister isn’t able to help due to her own challenges. My mom’s brother offered support…
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Sudden Decline
Hi- I just saw my mom (85) in another state. The decline is significant. Day of the week Where's my (various items)? Where is (various people)? I knew it was coming. But I'm so overwhelmed.
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Trusting the "Experts"
This is my first time posting on this website. I am almost 60 years old and my 90 year old mother was recently diagnosed with dementia. She and my father live in an RCAC 2 hours away from where my sister and I live. In the past few months my mom's memory has declined and has required more care. She and my dad have been…
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New Member, First Post - Power of Attorney
I have three siblings and one lives fifteen minutes away from my mom. I live in another state but manage all her finances and anything else I can to take the load off our sibling who lives locally. When I agreed to be my mom's power of attorney, I naively thought it would only come into play for her finances. However, this…
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Recently Admitted Father to MC, and wondering if it gets easier
Hi, I'm pretty new to the discussions here. Last week, my father was taken by ambulance to the hospital due to a heart issue he had at a McDonalds at 6AM. When he was admitted to the hospital, it was obvious to the staff that he should no longer be living alone. I believed he could go on living by himself, thinking that…
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Mom is constantly angry with my sister
My Mom was diagnosed with Alzheimers in the fall of 2022. She is understandably having a very hard time with the loss of her financial independence and is constantly accusing my sister of controlling her. We have POA and I tell her we're making the decisions together, but her anger is focused on my sister, who is the…
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Going Home.
Mom is 87. I am her 60 year old son. She has been in our home since Thanksgiving. She is memory impaired. Family doctor refuses to be helpful. He tells her she has age related memory loss. Then tells her it happens to the best of us. Mom’s house is 180 miles away. She has ZERO support system. All the neighbors have home…
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Real ID or passport problems
Hi everyone and thank you in advance for any assistance. I live in Colorado but my mother is in a memory care facility in SC. As her disease progresses, it’s just too hard to have her so far away. I’m desperately trying to get her to CO to a new facility but I don’t have her original birth certificate or SS card and she…
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New here and looking for advice
Hi, I am the 58 year old son of a 89 y/o father who is entering mid-stage Alzheimer’s. I live in California, and my parents live in Southwest Florida. I had recently taken FMLA to fly out for 3 weeks to help my 85 year old Mom find an assisted living facility for him(she is unable to care for him any longer). We did find…
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Personal Hygeine
My father & his wife are in assisted living & have recently resisted showering. I will be approaching the subject with them, but could use any advice you have on how best to approach. I do not live close enough to be onsite to assist on a regular basis.
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How to talk to Parent about moving to Independent Living when they don't want to leave their home
Any advice on how to talk to parent with mild dementia who does not want to move out of their house into a care facility? For reference, my mom got diagnosed last Fall and is now having issues with remembering to take her medicine and eat, also can't keep track of days and is forgetting how to use her oven. My sister and I…
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My first post - coping as a young person in a family with a history of alzheimers
Hello, I am a 24 year old woman who helps to care for my grandmother who has alzheimers. I live about 3 hours from her, my mom and grandpa are her primary care givers. I make trips to visit about once a month. I have joined this forum in hopes of finding folks to talk to about my experience as a young person who has…
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New to group - brother closing in on his dx
It’s been a tough few weeks as I’ve watch my 64 yr old brother (I’m 62) get the dx work up for Alzheimer’s. He had a neuro consult today to review blood and he’s definitely starting treatment for Alzheimer’s asap. He’s like a twin to me and I’ve just felt so sad all day. I haven’t had this sense of grief since our dad…
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When Does Long-Distance Caregiving Stop Working?
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Almost died
Good evening, A little over a week ago, on Jan. 9th, my Dad (pwd) went to the ER from memory care after a fall (complaint of head and hip pain). He had had pneumonia in Dec. and still had a bad cough. Turns out he had bronchitis and pneumonia again, and he was put on antibiotics. The CT scan done on his head didn't show…
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Put Mom in MC - Feeling Guilty
Yesterday I pur my 89 year old Mother in MC. I am feeling so guilty, like I failed her. I got her there under the guise of meeting a friend, then I just left her. I had ask the staff while preparing her room about leaving phones and tablets for her, they said leave it. Last evening my mom start posting things on Facebook…
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I didn't plan for this:
I am a fairly good planner. I was a project manager, so I know planning for things that can go wrong is wise. I have not planned for the case where I die before my DW. We have wills, POAs, and family members assigned to take over health care and financial matters. However, I have not planned for someone to take over the…
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New here. Mom with relatively early dementia
I live a long way from my mom, a 4 day drive. She is relatively early in things. Her PCP never actually told her when she wrote dementia on her problem list a few years ago. Recently I went to ophthalmologist’s appointment with her and asked “she has Alzheimer’s, so you should add that to her problem list”. My mom said “I…
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Is Sundowning Real?
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New to this and seeking guidance
I’m new to this whole world and the challenges it presents! Mom is showing many signs of Dementia/Alz and in the process of additional health tests. No official diagnosis, no cognitive testing. Limited healthcare in the area and PCP is generalist. We are trying to get her to Geriatric Dr in a few months tho haven’t brought…
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long distance - Mom refuses to be evaluated & Dad isn't taking action
My parents live in a different city, and we are deeply concerned about my mom’s health. She is 78 and has been showing signs of memory loss for the last couple of years, which are progressively worsening. She refuses to acknowledge the issue, won’t allow herself to be formally diagnosed, and has made my dad promise not to…
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Moving LO to a condo
Both my parents have dementia/AD. They both are in the moderate stage and they can no longer live in their house far from any family. My siblings want to buy a condo with my parent’s funds, move them to it and get them 24/7 care. They think my parents will easily adjust. I’m not convinced this is the right solution. I’m…