Why can’t they just stop fixating!!!

Quilting brings calm

I  could not stay calm and  reassuring with Mom on the phone today.  I just need her to stop fixating on every little thing and working herself into( as she calls it ) a tizzy.  She gets all worked up and cries and then she or Dad call the RAs in at the ASL.  And then they call the new nurse.  And it goes in her record. We already have her on Xanax ( Prozac didn’t work).  I already got what amounts to a verbal warning  a month or so ago when she wanted to be taken off the Xanax after a month. The ASL is under strain after dealing with the Covid restrictions all year.  

background:  

Her official diagnosis is MCI.  She’s suffered from ‘nerves’ all her adult life. 

Dad has been having dizzy spells.  He takes thyroid medication and has Miniers disease, so it’s a common enough occurrence  for him. I left a message with the doctors’ nurse Thursday.  They have wellness exams scheduled for tomorrow.  He had blood work and a CT scan Monday the 28th in preparation for an upcoming annual cancer follow up. 

The ASL just got thru a Covid outbreak.  Mom and Dad keep testing  negative and the ASL was back down to 1 case on the 28th  he was cleared to go for those tests. Dad was so dizzy yesterday that he wouldn’t get out of bed or eat.  The new ASL nurse was called( her day off) and put them in isolation as a precaution.  Mom called me.  I called the office to confirm . His vitals were good and they didn’t think I needed to call the doctor.  I called back a couple hours later and he was better. 

However I called this morning and he is in bed ... because he didn’t get to sleep much overnight.  Because my mom decided to work herself into this tizzy.  She doesn’t know why but thinks it’s because of the isolation and the fact that the staff is wearing full PPE when they come in to check on them

So. Today on the phone she  does the entire I don’t  want to live, I don’t want to live here. I do t want to live sone where worse. Anywhere they go has Covid restrictions and if she doesn’t stop this freaking out they are going to kick her out.  My guess is she will end up in memory care or she and dad will just get in the car and disappear until a disaster.  

I text my sister for support and she throws a fit texting back  because I don’t have enough sympathy for people who are isolated ( she’s on disability for her back and is mentally ill - isolates herself and has for years). Yet she’s written my parents off. Didn’t even call them when she was here for Christmas or go out and at least window visit.   The other sister is a licensed social worker who wrote my parents  off years ago too. Both live out of state. Stepsiblings haven't been part of the picture for decades. 

Thanks for listening. I don’t expect anyone to have any answers. 

Suzy23

Dear Quilting,

That sounds so aggravating and frustrating. And it sucks that your sisters  and step siblings do not help. What would happen to your parents  if they didn’t have you either? 

Just wanted to say I hope things calm down for them and you get some relief. 

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