My worse fear came to be

ugomimi

II am only caregiver and Im sick. Fever, chills,aches fever and cough. We both went for covid test today. I am miserable and he has slept all day. Now he is peeing everywhere. I sit on toilet, wet seat, floor urine , he even peed on my bladder protection pads. The whole bag! I dont think anyone can come help me until covid results. Always have wonder what I would do if thiss happened. I just feel so exhausted. Helps to share

Lorita

Oh, I'm so sorry.  This was always a worry when I was a caregiver - and still is now that I'm alone.  It's so hard when there's no one else to call on to help.  Wish I was close so I could help you.

 Hopefully, tomorrow will be better for both of you.

  

Joe C.

I’m so sorry you are so sick and have no help, it must be devastating. I hope your covid test comes back negative.

David J

I am a sole caregiver too. I thought about what I would do if I got sick, and this is what I would do  

If you can, have a friend get whatever supplies you need tonight.  If you can clean up after DH, do so, but if not don’t make yourself worse. If you haven’t signed up for food shopping service, do that too and get groceries to last two weeks. Get in touch with your doctor and check in daily. If things get bad, call 911 before it is too late. Fill them in on the situation so your DH can be admitted to Geri psych or placed at MCF. If DH also gets sick he will need to go to the emergency room too. They’ll probably have to sedate him to treat him, but he’ll be under medical care. 

Again, this is what I would do if it happens to us. Good luck, keep checking in here if you can. You have a bunch of friends here who know exactly what you’re dealing with. 

Ed1937

WOW! That is beyond terrible. I hope your test comes back negative, and I hope you get better quickly. That's just too much to ask of anyone to take care of someone else when they are that sick themselves.

LadyTexan

Dear Ugomimi.

I am glad you shared what is going on. I am sorry this is happening. I wish I was able to offer some hands on help. I hope the covid results come back soon and are negative.

In the meantime, maybe you could reach out to some resources such as a faith group, the Area Agency of Aging or a neighbor to line up assistance once the results come back? People have surprised me when I have asked for help. I often get help if I ask for it, but I have to take the first step and ask.

If things get really dire, contacting Adult Protective Services may be an option. In Texas, APS is intended to assist vulnerable at risk adults.

Hugs and prayers are coming your way. Again, I am so sorry this is happening. I ask the Lord to watch over you and your loved one.

-LT

Cynbar

Ugomimi, this sounds awful, I am so sorry this is happening. If things get so bad that you need to go to the hospital, call 911. Explain that your husband has dementia and cannot be left alone. They will take him to the ER along with you, and the hospital's social services department will help you make a plan for him. I have seen this happen many times, so don't hesitate to get the care you need .

eaglemom

I think this is every caregivers fear. At least I know its mine. Toss in a pandemic and its overwhelming. I'm so sorry.

Do what you can and leave the rest. Have a friend do a porch drop off of immediate supplies.

As much as no one wants to go to the ER, please don't hesitate to call 9-1-1 if need be. Please check in so we know how your doing.

eagle

mrl

Mimi,

Hang in..honest It's a short trip I promise. You are doing wonderful!!!