Just placed Mom in Nursing Home

schatterjee

My Step-Dad finally cried uncle and we placed my Mom.  Yesterday was her first day and she is resistant and of course so confused.  I'm just feeling terrible for her.  There is no question that things at home were not good.  My SD had become overwhelmed and exhausted.  She has been very confused for the last year and has begun to see things that are not there.  She however is positive that there is nothing wrong with her.

We live six hours away and I can get up there once a month but that's so seldom... Of course we can't see her - other than Zoom for the next 10 days anyway but I have no idea if there is even anything that we can do to make it easier for her.  If anyone has any suggestions that might have worked for someone who very much wants to be in charge and go home they will be super appreciated.

Wishing everyone here patience, great strength and a great day.

M1

Hope she adjusts quickly, I'm sure it was a hard decision.  I have no personal experience, but reading lots of similar posts, it seems to take most people longer to adjust than we would hope, so don't let that surprise you.  On the other hand, the socialization may help her a lot.  Fingers crossed for you.

Wilted Daughter

On a positive note at least you were able to place when needed, not wait for months. The transition to a new environment I would expect to be difficult at first (30 days) with intermittent difficulties (wanting to go home/leave). My dad was receptive to being placed, I am very doubtful there will  be a smooth transition for my mom.

Either way, you've done the best for everyone and perhaps the quality of care will improve. You can always search for other facilities and place your mom on a waiting list. It's a very difficult time, but hopefully you will find peace with your decision and mom will fit in with the socializing and attention provided to her needs.