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Jerry has passed

     My husband  of  33 years passed  peacefully in his sleep today. In fact he has been sleeping for the last two days almost non stop.   He has been almost  unresponsive   during that time. I was expecting  the rn to visit  this am , so I gave him  a change and a fresh sheet. He had had night sweats during the night so I gave him  a sponge bath, he was barely aware of any of it until I kissed him on the forehead , and he sighed. An hour later he was gone.In spite of covid I have allowed our sons  each a time to say goodbye.  Hospice completely took care of everything , and his body has been delivered to the anatomical board of colorado. I am devastated  but I think for all my faults  I did a very good job after all thanks to all of you I know I couldn't have done it without  you.       Love and Peace to all of you   Tami

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  • loc3762
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    Wishing you happy memories.  Leslie
  • abc123
    abc123 Member Posts: 1,171
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    I'm sorry for the loss of your husband. Please accept my sincere condolences.
  • M1
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    So sorry Tami. Peace to you. You did great.
  • Doityourselfer
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    I'm sorry for your loss.  Take good care of yourself.
  • David J
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    So sorry Tami. You’re right; you did a great job.  May your happy memories sustain you. 

    Dave

  • Jeff86
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    Heartfelt condolences, Tami.  You were a wonderful caregiver.  Let us know how you’re doing.
  • Ed1937
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    Tami, I'm sorry for your loss, but I'm glad it was a peaceful passing for him. Please take care of you now.
  • White Crane
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    I'm so sorry, Tami.  There are no words but know that I am holding you in prayer.

    Brenda

  • ElaineD
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    Dear Tami,  Your journey with your husband honored him in life and in death.  Here we learn to share and honor all of life's mysteries.  We continue to be here for you in your grief that honors Jerry's life, as well.    

    Love, Elaine

  • toni2
    toni2 Member Posts: 31
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    I'm so sorry for your loss. Now is time to take care of you.
  • Mint
    Mint Member Posts: 2,808
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    Tami I am so sorry for your loss.
  • Last Dance
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     Tami   I am so sorry for your loss as caregivers we do what we do because we love them, and your husband was telling you that with his sigh that he loved you and a job well done. Please take care of yourself because as Army Vet said Losing a LO to ALZ as a spouse and caregiver does damage that can be long term if ignored. God’s Blessings to you as you start on a new journey in life alone. Richard

  • ladyzetta
    ladyzetta Member Posts: 1,028
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    ((((Tami)))))
  • Beachfan
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    Bless you, for all that you did for your DH, and for you in the days to come.  May you find peace and comfort in your memories as well as going forward.  Lynn.
  • Joe C.
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    I am sorry to hear of the loss of your husband. May you find some peace in the days ahead.
  • eaglemom
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    I am so sorry for your loss. What a peaceful passing you allowed him. Now its time for yourself. The good memories and times. 

    eagle

  • ChrisBme
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    My deepest condolences!  (((Tami)))
  • Marie58
    Marie58 Member Posts: 382
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    Tami, I'm so sorry for your loss. May God grant you and your family peace during this time. You were a wonderful caregiver.
  • anneleigh
    anneleigh Member Posts: 65
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    Tami, I express my sorrow for you during this time.  May you have family to help you through this next journey.  Blessings~
  • mrl
    mrl Member Posts: 166
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    Bless you Tami...you did excellent..honest

    m

  • janeymack
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    Tami - So sorry for your loss. As other said, you were a wonderful caregiver. His pain and confusion are gone forever, but his spirit is with you. Sending healing thoughts to you in your grief.
  • 4Grams
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    Thoughts and prayers are with you. So glad you were with him.
  • LadyTexan
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    Dear Tami. 

    I am so sorry for your loss. You were such a brave and loving caregiver. Jerry was blessed to have you by his side during this long and difficult journey.

    May God bless you and your loved ones. May He comfort you and may He bring you peace.

    Please take care.

    -LT

  • Firedoggy
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    So sorry for your loss take time to exhale and reflect on what you have done for your Husband and move on with life 

  • JoseyWales
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    I'm so sorry for your loss. He's now at peace. I hope you find some peace and remember the good times.
  • Bevy
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    Sorry to hear of Jerry's passing. Praying for comfort and peace to you and your family.
  • JJAz
    JJAz Member Posts: 285
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    Tami,

    You have been a true and faithful warrior. 

    Blessings,

    Jamie

  • mommom9
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    So sorry for you’re loss. You cared for you’re husband now please care for yourself. 

  • Mary Lu
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    Im sorry

  • LUBY2883
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    Despite loss there is gain. You have done your job as caretaker in love. Jerry is at peace, no more suffering. That is what I dwell upon in the last hours remaining of my wife and my 58 years of marriage. I live in today. The sorrow of thinking about too many days is heartbreaking to the brink of tears. He must have been a wonderful man to have had the love and attention you gave him. God Bless and may your sorrow be turned to tears of joy for you had a life of good memories.

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