Questions(4)

LisaLH

I'll try to make this short. 1. My father is on aricept and memantine(sp?) I quit taking him to the neurologist because his assisted living doctor refills them and I'm not sure there is much left for the neurologist to do. I would say he is late mid stage maybe. He is living like his mid 20's, doesn't talk about my mom and thinks his parents are alive. Am I wrong not taking him back?

2.  My father got a mild case of covid and had to be transferred to a skilled nursing from AL. While there he became sexual.  Let me say he has always been some what of a flirt but now it's full blown let me touch. He always says things like, let me know if I'm being inappropriate but he was coming on strong to the nurses. I went to get him and drive him back to AL so I could visit with him and he knew my name but not sure he could connect the daughter part. He kept rubbing my arm and kissing my hand. Also telling me how sexy I am. Let me say I know he is missing human contact due to covid and I am not upset. I know things like this can happen but was wondering if others have been through this and how you handled it?

star26

I agree with your reasoning for stopping the neurology visits. I think a geriatric psychiatrist is a good replacement for the neurologist if you ever feel the facility MDs aren't having success addressing a particular issue. A geriatric PCP plus a geriatric psychiatrist were the perfect combination for my Dad. If the sexual stuff keeps up and becomes a problem at his facility, you might consider medication. Some anti-depressants can lower sex drive and fix this issue.

Quilting brings calm

Could the change to the skilled nursing facility along with Covid have caused him to have gone into delirium? Changes in location will do that to those who are elderly or who have dementia?  If so he may improve once he’s back at assisted living.

LisaLH

He is already on an antidepressant. Maybe switching to a different one would help. Thanks for the info.

LisaLH

Quilting:  that is what I'm hoping has happened. Just got him back to AL last Thursday. I'm going to give it a couple of weeks to see if things get better before making any decisions.

WV

I just want to add that you're handling this much better than I did when my father exhibited similar behavior. I was very upset when my dad told me how sexy I was! learned from this board that such behavior is not unusual, nor was it his fault, as you know. He doesn't do that any more (probably helps that I visit with my brother or husband) although I do occasionally hear him tell the caregivers that they're very pretty.