We are going to keep you safe, even if it kills your spirit.

JoseyWales

This article hit home for me.

https://www.nytimes.com/2021/02/19/o...-dementia.html

Ed1937

Josey, thanks for the link. I've often wondered just what goes on in their minds. There's no telling.

Joe C.

Good article but tough to read. Basically it describes all the reason I put the option of placement on the back burner.

jfkoc

While this virus has had a negative effect on most everyone it is heart breaking to read just how devastating it is on our loved ones in a facility.

Crushed

DW is long past missing me or any family.  This may be relevant to early Alzheimer's but  but at the late stages we just can just fool ourselves.  My mother had vascular dementia and yes she knew us right up to the end .  But not DW.

Beachfan

A sad, but thought provoking article.

I’m with Joe C. COVID (and the isolation of those in facilities)  has given me more than enough reason to re-think placement for now.  DH does not know me, or the kids, or the grandkids, or the butcher, the baker, the candlestick maker; he allows me to care for him completely.  He goes where I take him, he eats what I feed him; anyone could take my place.  I doubt that I’d be missed.  He spends much of each day seated quietly; I can’t imagine his thoughts.  His “sundowning” consists of wandering around our living area, chatting with the plants, gesturing, rearranging small articles.  He’s here, but he’s not “here”.  

As frustrating and exhausting as his care can be, I can’t imagine how he would manage without the daily interaction, however fractured,  he has here.  I’d like to think he’d miss us, although in my heart, I know better.  I know we would miss him.  It’s a dilemma all around.