neurologist visit(1)

JJ401

DH had a neurologist visit yesterday. (This morning he asked me if he had gone or missed the visit. He checks the calendar every day.) He's slid downhill since the last visit and a new med (memantine) was added. 

But, before we left, the neurologist did something I didn't expect. He turned to me and asked how I was doing. He said that he knew I was taking care of DH, but not to forget to take care of myself, to draw in family support if I can (I can't). It was just so nice to be thought of.

French

Often, my partner's doctor asked me how I was and he also had explained to my partner that is was also difficult for me.He explained me that I mustn't to forget myself.

Last time, he thanked me for all what I was doing. I was really surprised.

Las time the neurologist explained to my partner that as I am still working and having children at home, I may not be able to care for him very long. She taold him that he should know that I may have to find other solutions such as placement and that I have to prepare it before being too overwhelmed because it woud be dangerous for my health.

He heard it but it is a topic he doesn't want to speak.

Doityourselfer

My husband's GP and neurologist always ask me how I'm doing as well, and tell me to call them if I have any questions.  These doctors know that dementia involves more than the patient.

Jeff86

Our neurologist visits are done in three parts:  the three of us, the doctor and me, and the doctor and my DW.  The doc clearly is aware that DW’s well-being is highly dependent on me and on my ability to continue to be a caregiver, so checks on how I’m doing as well as what changes I perceive in my DW’s condition.

Marie58

We just had a telemed  visit with DH's neurologist as well. He has always been very knowledgeable, realistic, kind and positive. Same is true about his primary care doc. After this telemed visit, I felt like I had gone through a therapist visit for me! He was very helpful talking about guilt, my health and well-being, and my adjustment now that DH is in MC. Like you said, it was so nice to be thought of and recognized for what we caregivers go through.