bathroom frequency especially at night

daisy_101

Do you follow LO's nature's call or do you take LO to the bathroom at fixed time, especially at night.

If it is fixed time, how often do you take LO?

Now it is a disaster at home. Sometime mom says she's not ready to go when I ask her. Sometime she does not call out and wet the bed.

Also, feeling bad for asking her wear adult diaper.

Please share your experience.

Kath50

My mom wakes me if she has to go, but if she’s sleeping, I let her sleep. Sounds bad to compare, but similar to a newborn, let them sleep!  With her incontinence, I have found that an overnight really long poise pad inside an assurance underwear prevents leaks, for the most part. I’ve observed if she goes to bed with a lot of anxiety about something, she’s more apt to need to go or have an accident. I also cut back any drinks in the evenings. That helps. Once a routine is established, that will help tremendously! Don’t feel bad about the disposable underwear, it just becomes a necessity at this point.

Cynbar

I encourage my DH to go to the bathroom at a set time in the evening, shortly before he is likely to doze off. Sometimes he'll say he doesn't have to go and I'll reply "Just give it a try" --- which he may or may not agree to. If he is set against it, I don't push too hard because it will agitate him. He does get up at times in the night and I have to get up to avoid falls, he has a bed alarm to wake us both up. Not ideal, but I'm dealing with it. But I still have to plan for leaks. I got him to wear Depends by repacking his regular underwear, and I bought the ones that look a lot like real underwear (also told him it saves on laundry which he liked.)  I  have waterproof washable pads I put under him at night (easily found on Amazon) which cuts down on the laundry.

towhee

Most people have what you might call a "pee pattern". Forgive the term, its the best I could come up with right now. Some might sleep for two hours and need to use the toilet and then sleep the rest of the night. Some might sleep for 6 hours and then need to get up. You should be able to learn your mothers pattern, then rouse her right about that time. Otherwise, let her sleep, just try not to let her lie in a wet brief for multiple hours. About not needing to go, try two things and see what works. One- don't ask her if she needs to go, just say something like "lets get you to the bathroom before I go to bed" or ask and then wait, and wait some more, because it takes time for that request to make it from her ears to her brain, to her body sense and back up again. That automatic, quick "no" response doesn't really reflect a sense of her needs. Five minutes after you have left the room her body will finally tell her "you do too need to use the toilet!".

Do not feel bad about using an adult brief. Just call it a nighttime brief or nighttime underwear. Your mother will pick up her emotional cues from you, if you are matter of fact about it odds are she will be too. I can assure you it is more uncomfortable lying in a wet bed. They make briefs that have a strip on them that changes color when they are wet, you might find them useful.

Wet beds are uncomfortable. Use a waterproof mattress cover with a sheet, then a bed pad. You can use another sheet with a bedpad on top of that, or two bedpads on top of one sheet. But be very careful with multiple layers of bedpads since your LO is having pressure sores. Wrinkles are your enemy and can cause pressure sores.

Marp

We refer to the adult incontinence briefs my sister wears to bed as "nighttime underwear".  She seems to accept it.

We're still working on a toileting schedule for my sister and we have the same issue others here have mentioned - she said she doesn't need to go then 10 minutes later, she does.

Not uncommon, apparently.

towhee wrote:

Most people have what you might call a "pee pattern". Forgive the term, its the best I could come up with right now. Some might sleep for two hours and need to use the toilet and then sleep the rest of the night. Some might sleep for 6 hours and then need to get up. You should be able to learn your mothers pattern, then rouse her right about that time. Otherwise, let her sleep, just try not to let her lie in a wet brief for multiple hours. About not needing to go, try two things and see what works. One- don't ask her if she needs to go, just say something like "lets get you to the bathroom before I go to bed" or ask and then wait, and wait some more, because it takes time for that request to make it from her ears to her brain, to her body sense and back up again. That automatic, quick "no" response doesn't really reflect a sense of her needs. Five minutes after you have left the room her body will finally tell her "you do too need to use the toilet!".

Do not feel bad about using an adult brief. Just call it a nighttime brief or nighttime underwear. Your mother will pick up her emotional cues from you, if you are matter of fact about it odds are she will be too. I can assure you it is more uncomfortable lying in a wet bed. They make briefs that have a strip on them that changes color when they are wet, you might find them useful.

Wet beds are uncomfortable. Use a waterproof mattress cover with a sheet, then a bed pad. You can use another sheet with a bedpad on top of that, or two bedpads on top of one sheet. But be very careful with multiple layers of bedpads since your LO is having pressure sores. Wrinkles are your enemy and can cause pressure sores.

M1

Very inconvenient that when we lie down at night, it makes it easier for the kidneys to filter fluid when they're not working against gravity.  So many folks have to urinate frequently at night and get up to pee in the middle of the night.  If she battles wearing a brief, there is also a new commercially available urine suction system for women that I'm seeing advertised on TV--essentially it's a pad that you put inside a brief connected by tubes to a suction pump that pulls the urine away.  I forget the name but should be easy to find.