FIL having a few bad days

KawKaw

Though he remains gentle and cooperative, my FIL with dementia is having a rough few days.

He is confused about where this house is.

We've had the same conversation for three days. 

He asks where this is.  I tell him as briefly and directly as possible.

He seeks verification.  Then again.

He asks where the nearby village is where he used to live.  I tell him briefly.

Request for verification.  He has the sense it is a 4 hours' drive away.

I distract with the dogs or getting him coffee or something to eat.

15 minutes later, repeat.  Then again.

I don't mind repeating the conversation.  I know for him, it is a first time every time.

I add comments about cardinal directions, which he finds useful for a few moments.

I am beginning to sense at times that he seems not to know who I am.  He treats me well, as someone who is acceptable to be here.  

I will be remain aware.  He tends to be calm, but I am non sanguine about startling someone who does not recognize me.

I reintroduce myself to him casually from time to time.

My mother had a much more challenging run with dementia and tended toward anger, distress, and fear.

So far, it has been relatively easy caring for FIL. Yes, lots of messes, accidents and he needs a lot of supervision.  I tend to be lead during the day while my spouse works from home, though my spouse will get him snacks and checks on him every half hour or so.

After my spouse gets a chance to unwind a bit after work, he is lead.

My spouse takes him to all doctor appointments, organizes and dispenses medications.  He also takes responsibility for cleaning up after bathroom accidents, though I manage the laundry.

I hope my FIL does not need to be placed in a facility, though there is a good one a quarter mile down the road we are on a waiting list for, just in case.

Arrowhead

It appears to me that between you and your spouse, you're doing a great job. You seem to be handling the situation well. I hope it never becomes too much for you to handle. But, just in case, stay on the waiting list.