rebuffed sex ask

amicrazytoo

Last night for whatever reason, DH was quite amorous. He had been in bed since 7 PM, I crawled in about 9 PM. I rebuffed his actions, I felt that we had not had a sexual encounter in such a long time, I just wasn't ready for that. Besides I had taken some Benadryl to help with allergies before going to bed. Today, I'm having second thoughts, should I have honored his request? Was his memory working, albeit temporary. He usually looks to me as that lady that takes care of things, not as his wife. Was my rebuff appropriate?

French

 When you don't want to, you don't want to.

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Crushed

May I concur 100% ??

no one should ever feel obliged to have sex unless they want to, and if the partner cant understand that,  that fact is an additional support for your action. (unless you like anonymous meaningless sex with anyone )   

(old story) we had a hot thing going but I always asked before I touched her and waited for an  an affirmative response and DW and I had been married for 7 years.

Ed1937

You did nothing wrong. Forget about it. He probably already did.

French

Yes Victoria, you guessed it, my accent is terrible !

bubba

Always had good sex

now she is repulsed by approaches

one more thing I have to give up

Denise1847

I read somewhere that certain forms of AD have stages where the person becomes aroused and amorous. I am sure the folks on this site will be able to give you more incite about it.

Denise1847

PookieBlue

DH and I went through that stage. Last night when helping him get to bed, he asked if I was going to sleep with him and I asked him if he was feeling lucky. We both had a good laugh. Sometimes I tell him it depends. Today, Have I been your sister, wife or that cute 30 year old brunette who does all the work around here?

Delinda60

I’m so new to this journey I should probably not even comment. But, I will anyway…lol. I think what ever you decide you shouldn’t second guess yourself. This journey is hard enough without piling guilt on yourself. Also, I’m sure your husband loves you enough that if he was not suffering with this he would totally understand.