Happy Mother's Day, Mom.

LicketyGlitz

I wish all you mothers, whether you are living with dementia or loving and caring for someone who is - a wonder filled Mother's Day! You are the heart of the world.

Happy Mother's Day

https://www.stumpedtowndementia.com/post/happy-mother-s-day

Indolence, thy name is Lickety.

https://www.stumpedtowndementia.com/post/indolence-thy-name-is-lickety

M1

These are a Mother's Day present to all of us Lickety.  I so admire your writing.....heartfelt wishes and kind thoughts for this stage of your journey.  My bet is you've made more progress than you realize.

LicketyGlitz

I hope you are right, M1! And I hope you've had an excellent caregiver day.

Quilting brings calm

You will make progress.You and ‘the other girl’  needed to decompress, and yes,  grieve for Dad because you didn’t have time to while caring for (and grieving in advance for) your Mom. 

It’s truly amazing how quick lives change.  Your house feels empty now.  Parents will tell you that an empty nest feels the same way and it happens all of a sudden.  That’s what you have - an empty nest.  When my youngest left home for college, it took a few months for me to get used to  the quiet house, the freedom to come and go without worrying what he was doing, etc,  

wyoming daughter

I saw you had posted and couldn't wait to read.....thank you - you're amazing.

King Boo

Thank you for sharing this, Lickety.   You put to words what I could never figure out - why things still feel so incomplete with the parent who suddenly dies, and why I don't have that for my LOWD.

There was so much that 'could have' been done, or the guilty 'should have been done' parent who died suddenly.  And I did none of that.

The journey with my LOWD sucked me completely dry.  I had done and facilitated virtually everything that should have been done. 

Your insight helped me close this - at least temporarily.

mommyandme (m&m)

Thank you!  Also, I’m very curious as to what The New Dementia Project is.... looking forward to it.