When you question LO's caregiver

LaurenB

I'm not sure if LO's caregiver is willfully disagreeing with the neurologist and myself or is having their own issues.  I'm not close with the caregiver and they are pretty much a "loner."  Their only friend is a cousin who lives across the country.  Their POA is still listed as LO followed by their sister who I've never met.  LO doesn't even remember who the last president was.  I'm just not sure what to do.  I'm so angry about this situation.  Ugh.

Cynbar

I think it would help if you could be a little more specific. What are the disagreements ---- are they about medical decisions, medications, living arrangements, finances, safety, denial? Is this perhaps a parent and stepparent situation? Does the caregiver have full legal control while you have none? Please give us some more information and we'll try to help.

dayn2nite2

I agree with the above poster, this is so vaguely worded we really can't answer.

Who is the LO to you, who is the caregiver in relation to the LO?  Do you have legal standing in your LO's life?  Why does it matter whether the caregiver agrees with you and/or neurologist?  The neurologist in most cases is a useless opinion.

adrscheuerman

I live in VA. 

My mother has EOAD, and my father refused to let her seek medical attention, put hundreds of thousand of dollars in debt in her name, and then began isolating her refusing to let us children see her when we started questioning his care decisions. We got Adult Protective Services involved and they did an investigation, resulting in emergency removal from the home.  She is beyond happy now, with a better quality of life. 

If you think that there are serious issues, you can put in an anonymous complaint, even if you are just a concerned friend, and a case worker interviews all parties, and investigates the claims before making recommendations. There is a set of criteria for what constitutes as neglect and abuse on the APS website.

Good luck with everything.