Our final trip together

hvhartman

Today was our final trip together.  I took the urn with her ashes to her niche in the cemetary, our pastor met us there for prayers, the cover was secured and I returned home.  She died at home on Mother's Day, her funeral was very beautiful then the herse returned her to the mortuary for cremation.  I picked up the urn last week and kept it at home over the weekend.

Thus ended our 53 year marriage, the last 11 under a dark cloud of Alzheimer's, the last four with her bed bound, unable to walk or talk, in our dining room converted to sick room.  She took her last breath quietly, trying to speak and smile but the disease had sapped her brain of any capacity to engage with anything else on this earth and so she left.  

The long sad progression of the disease had given me enough time to prepare for today, time to anticipate both relief and grief, and time to look back as well as ahead.  But knowing is not feeling and today is much more feeling than knowing or understanding or finding.  That will be for another day.

piozam13

I'm sorry to hear about your loss.  I too lost DH a few months ago.  There's relief knowing they no longer suffer and probably are in a better place.  Yet the pain of losing a loved one is very real.  Grieving is another journey.  Take care.

Ed1937

Sorry for your loss.

White Crane

I'm so very sorry.  Holding you close in prayer.

Beachfan

I am so sorry to learn of your loss. Several days ago, I posted about our 53rd anniversary and was thinking of you, because I’m pretty sure we share the same wedding date (6/8/68).  I was wondering if you were able to “celebrate” (at least with some bittersweet memories for yourself.) You have had a long, hard caregiving journey.  I hope you find rest, peace and better days ahead.  Bless you.

Joe C.

My condolences on your loss. May you find some peace in the days ahead.

storycrafter

A day of significant, deep remembrance for you indeed. Sending my condolence and wishing you peace and rest, and God's healing presence in your heart.

Jeff86

Heartfelt sympathy for your wife’s passing.  You have been a heroic caregiver.  May the days and weeks ahead bring you peace.

Mint

So sorry for your loss.

Jo C.

Sending warm thoughts to you and hopes that peace and solace find you soon as you begin the healing process; I am so sorry,

J.

David J

I am very sorry for your loss. May your fondest memories bring you peace.

amicrazytoo

I'm sorry for your loss. May the good memories provide you with comfort.

Lorita

Please accept my condolences on your loss.  I know yesterday was a hard day for you but you know she's no longer bedbound and is now free of this terrible disease.  Maybe that can be of some comfort to you.  I know the loss is so hard.

abc123

I am very sorry for the loss of your dear wife.

caberr

So sorry for your loss.

JoseyWales

I am so sorry for your loss.

jfkoc

A trip never planned for....one I have yet to make with my husband's ashes. 

Please accept my deep sympathy...........