Bittersweet Father's day

Mikela

I celebrated father's day at dad's house.  I did notice he kept the candy (Turtles) I'd sent.  My stepsister was conspicuously absent.  My stepmother refused to acknowledge or speak to me at all.  There is another rabbit's hole in play now.  Apparently, stepsister was deactivated by Door Dash as a "dasher."  I don't know the hows or whys.  But somehow, she now thinks me and/or my siblings hacked her account.  I know I repeatedly told her and stepmother that she needed to find a better, honest-to-god actual delivery job where she'd get a paycheck with insurance and actual benefits.  Unlike Door Dash,  which I believe is as a contractor where you have to pay both sets of taxes and FICA out of pocket.  I asked my Dad and he believes I messed with stepsister's Door Dash account.  He mentioned it out of the blue and it just seemed so odd.    I said I could care less about a Door Dash account let alone messing with it.  I'd just like stepsister to find a real, more tangible job where she isn't relying on gas money from Dad and is able to support herself.  I asked Dad if he thought I was lying and he said yes.  I've taken one computer literacy class in my life in grade school and several business application classes, ie..  Quickbooks, Excel etc.  At my first job, I actually erased a "C:" in MS Dos and had to call my older brother to see how to get it back on the computer.  Sigh.. We were raised to uphold the idea that "your word is your bond."  Basically, you break it upon pain of death and try to not even do it then either.  It is so weird that my Dad didn't catch me throwing the phrase back at him.  It was one of his favorite phrases to hammer into our heads as kids.  It just leaves me sad that this is what has happened now.    

On a lighter note,  we have a neurologist appointment scheduled for Thursday and 1st of 3 Psych appointments scheduled starting on July 7th.    Apparently, the scheduling of the neurologist appointment was met with, "I'll need to run that by my attorney."  We (siblings) have agreed any imagined delay for the agreed upon appointments would result in filing for guardianship.   I see progress and delay as stepmother is still lashing out against whatever control I have on the credit/vendor logins.   She managed to undo most of what I did to safeguard AT&T.   Although, I can say my Dad has a new cell and landline number so that is still so much better than it was. I did have to resubmit a DPOA for the 3rd or 4th time to AT&T and American Express.     It feels like I'm dealing with 3 patients, instead of just my Dad.   I have attached the file our attorney mentioned needs to be completed by a doctor at least in the State of Texas if pursuing guardianship.  I thought it may be helpful for someone else.  

Tired but still plugging along, 

Mikela 

M1

Mikela, its hard to learn not to engage in arguments with a pwd, even when accused of irrational things. The less said about other family members, the better-but it takes lots of practice to give noncommittal responses and redirect. Hope the upcoming assessments are helphul.

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