Moving my BIL turning into slow-moving nightmare

LarryFeltonJ

I'm in the process of packing selected belongings and moving my BIL to a memory-care apartment very near our (my wife and I) home.

Every minor thing that can go wrong has.  The minivan rental I'd arranged fell through.  The alternative company doesn't have one available until tomorrow (if then).

So I had to phone the facility to tell them I'd be at least a day late.

I'd originally planned to drive my BIL in his car, but getting the expired registration taken care of will take a longer time frame than I have available, so I'm having to do that remotely from home, then sell it before anyone closes on my BIL's house.

My wife phoned from our home saying that the facility had contacted us and asked if we had signed a move-in contract (something I assumed had been done when we put the deposit down). Even though she's back a couple of miles from the facility she insisted that I call them (I'm almost exactly 1,000 miles away, so anything that can't be done digitally I can't do).

My BIL's bank needs my late mother-in-law's death certificate in order to transfer some assets that had been left to my BIL ten years ago (I have no idea why my MIL's death certificate is a factor in an inheritance from that long ago).  That would be a small thing except it's an additional thing I have to do in-person at a town clerk's office while I'm trying to get the rest of the stuff done.

There are more things, but I'm getting tired of typing.  If I come out of this with my sanity intact it will be amazing.

And even though my BIL will be in a memory-care unit I have no intention of just abandoning him there.  I'll be bringing him to our house, visiting there, and advocating for him.  Not something I expected to be doing at my age.  I'm nearly old enough to need taking care of myself.

Stuck in the middle

Sounds like a snafu (situation normal, all fouled up).  Murphy's Law applies to all situations, even altruistic ones.  Just watch Apollo 13 until you feel better.

From one septuagenarian to another, just remember:  70 isn't old (if you're a tree) 

dayn2nite2

This person you’re married to, what does she bring to the table in this marriage?  She sounds like a pain in the a**.

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