Financial services

Munnbunn76

Everything I have been looking at while googling has been useless. I need to talk to someone about financial services, help with social security, I mean I don't know the first thing about any of this. My mom has nothing. I'm not even being dramatic. She was receiving around 750 in social security. While in the foster home, they took everything except maybe 100 bucks a month. Which my mom used for going to the little store on the corner. The foster place has a padlock on the fridge. They provided 3 meals a day no more.  So, if my mom was thirsty, she was allowed tap water. Unless it was something of her own. She didn't have a refrigerator in her room. So I came to see my mom once. Saw her cokes were out the window to stay cold. She has always been an amazing person. I love her more than myself. The guilt is something I don't know if I will ever get over. She tells me I'm the best daughter anyone could ever ask for. I feel guilty because this is so far from the truth it's laughable. I'm a loser. I don't have any resources to help her. The corona that has messed up people's lives, yea, try that, after already being homeless before that even started. I don't want to ramble but I don't have anyone to talk to. Ask questions. Nothing. How do I find someone to help me with these questions? I'm not trying to look like a beggar or someone who is trying to get something for free. But because I have been a waitress my whole life, that job is still not going to be able to support myself let alone me and her. Michigan still isn't even allowing restaurants to seat all their tables. I'm still on unemployment because of this. I don't know what to do. I'm lost and I just lay on my bed and cry. I didn't have any friends before this because I just worked literally every day. Now. When I could use a friend, I don't have any. How does a 45 year old woman start to look for friends. I feel like a complete loser and a joke as a human being. I miss my mom. Because this person, I don't want to complain. But she's not my mom. I'm used to this tiny 5 foot 3 foul mouthed lady. Now she's a tiny, frail, quiet, opposite of my mom. It's scary. I am actually scared to get close to her because I don't want to be so devastated when she gets bad. I sound like a selfish person. I'm so sorry, I'm just lost. 

M1

Welcome to the forum, I'm sorry you're feeling so down.  The Alzheimer's Association has a 24/7 hotline, it's free and maybe they could give you some advice about where to start.  1-800-272-3900.  On a holiday weekend, it's a good bet.  Ask to speak to a care consultant.  Good luck, others will have advice for you too I'm sure but weekends can be kind of slow.

sandwichone123

Munnbunn76, I am glad you came here. It's rough no matter what else is going on, and you have a lot going on besides your mom's care. Please understand, we all come here and talk (complain) about our situation, which is truly rotten no matter how you slice it. We come here and ask questions and all the answers are free. This is the most supportive place I've found on the Internet. Of all the stressors in your life, coming here is a great decision so don't stress about whining or complaining or asking questions.

There is a lot of information here just from clicking around and reading, but if you have specific questions or just need emotional support don't hesitate to reach out. The hotline M1 listed may be able to direct you to specific resources in your state, who can answer questions about your mom's situation.

Diane

Cynbar

Oh my goodness, it does sound like there is a lot going on. You have come to the right place, you'll find a lot of support and advice and sympathy here. Amongst us, we have experience and knowledge on just about anything. It sounds like your mom is in an official foster care home through the state of Michigan, paid for by Medicaid and most of her income. I know $100 isn't much to have left over, but the foster home should be providing meals and drinks and laundry and snacks. It doesn't appear that they are doing a very good job, I can't imagine padlocking the frig unless someone has strict dietary restrictions. This foster home should be getting oversight and supervision from an agency, which will have nurses and social workers on staff. Ask the foster home about this directly, then contact the agency and tell them your concerns. It is up to them to see that she is properly taken care of. Does your mom have someone appointed to be her durable power of attorney and medical power of attorney? That isn't the same thing as a payee. I know you want what is best for your mom, that comes through loud and clear, but you're not in a place right now where she can live with you. Improving the conditions in her foster home would help you feel better while you are putting your life back together. Good luck !