A bit loss & alone

HawkAlone

Well, this is not somewhere I ever thought I’d be. My aunt, Mom’s younger sister, was just diagnosed with Alzheimer’s & dementia - although we (my Mom & I) thought something  was happening over a year ago (& have sense learned her son & DIL thought so too). (At Christmas she couldn’t even read the words “Merry Christmas” & many times my aunt would ask me who my Mom was or how they were related) Now my uncle wants them & us to move in together so I can help out. I already am the caregiver for my Mom (who is 81 yrs old), and have been for 22 years. See my Aunt & Uncle, in March, finalized the adoption of their great-granddaughter (3 years old). I took care of the little girl for 4 days over the 4th of July and my heart cries, this little girl had a couple nightmares about my aunt’s outbursts and my uncle & aunt fighting, she is struggling learning & potty training. My uncle & aunt are in denial that things will “get bad” or that the little girl will need attention & my aunt will need 24/7 attention.

Oh Lord help me. I love them all but my major thoughts keep turning to this 3 yrs old girl’s upbringing & having to watch her “Mama” (what she calls my aunt) slowly (or maybe fast) deteriorate. I don’t know how to make them see the light. Or understand a decision needs to be done sooner, rather than later for this little girls sanity.

Sorry for the ramble.

One stressed out lady, HawkAlone

Quilting brings calm

Tell them no.  You are doing all you can do to  take care of your Mom.  You can’t take on your aunt and uncle, their great grand daughter and all their family drama.  What court allowed them  to adopt their great grand daughter with your aunt in this condition? When  my husband adopted my son from a previous relationship, we had a home visit by a social worker, were investigated and my son had a guardian appointed to represent  his interests during it. We were in our early thirties, had gotten married the year before and I was recently pregnant. 

Tell your aunt and uncle they must turn to their son and daughter in law, their grandchildren etc.